@sylvan8798 that’s sort of what’s happening with my DH and his sister. There’s a strong part of me that thinks there should be a reconciliation, but DH says he’s happier without her in his life and maybe he’s right. I hold out some hope that my kids as adults will develop some sort of relationship with their cousins, but at the moment that seems like wishful thinking on my part. Over winter break I tried to encourage my older D (age 21) to reach out to her cousins (ages 20 and 18) to just get together for coffee, but she wasn’t interested. I have to say that on his side of the family there are lots of these stories of family estrangement and people not speaking to each other.