<p>I have no words for that type of thinking. I’m done. Good luck to all DH’s that think this way . . . not that you’ll find in at all. Peace/Out</p>
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<p>I don’t mind because I think if you talk it out of your system you’ll be able to more appropriately reason out the perceptive of DH in this regard.</p>
<p>Roshke:
Breathedeeply, If your son is at this point having second thoughts and would take an offer of acceptance from the waitlist school, I would urge him to contact the regional rep and make it clear that if offered a spot at that school he wlll definitely attend.</p>
<p>Question:
My son is in deep consternation over this. He is thinking that tomorrow is the only window of opportunity to have his gc contact the regional rep. as by the end of the week if he makes the contact, then they will assume he was denied or WL at his reaches. We’re new at this, so I don’t have an answer for him, but assume that’s the way this plays out. I would also guess that if he is offered a spot and denies it, then that will really make the high school look unprofessional, and my son, and that wouldn’t be good. Is that how this works? Personally, it doesn’t seem fair that the colleges can ‘play’ with the applicants, but they can’t ‘play’ back.</p>
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<p>Don’t go CoolRunning, we need a normal husband and his input on this thread. :)</p>
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<p>POIH…is this new apartment out of the country or has your wife’s family relocated?</p>
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And how about my son who got into Harvard, but not MIT where he wanted to attend? Whose fault was that? We all thought he was a better fit for MIT, but apparently H’s need for diversity included computer nerds and MIT’s didn’t. (He didn’t attend either school in the end.)</p>
<p>At the time I felt rather annoyed with MIT because I didn’t like their admission criteria. Now (four years later) I’m more inclined to blame my son for not understanding (or at least being unwilling to play) the admissions game. That said I always figured that his chances at Harvard were 1 in 2 and his chances at MIT were 1 in 4, so I wasn’t really surprised. He landed in a great place and has a dream job offer, so we can’t complain how it all turned out.</p>
<p>“He is thinking that tomorrow is the only window of opportunity to have his gc contact the regional rep.”</p>
<p>No, no,no,no,no…1] wait lists can extend into the Summer. He has plenty to time in teh next month to ask his GC to contact the college he is WL’d at. At this point, 1 week before acceptance decisions by college are announced, you can be sure those decisions have already been made. After April 1, colleges don’t “second guess” the reasons why a WL’d student contacts them . They wont even have a CLUE how deep into their wait list they can or may have to dip, until after May 1, when accepted students have to make their decisions. Then, if their yield is too low, that is when colleges go to the wait list to fill the class.</p>
<p>“I would also guess that if he is offered a spot and denies it, then that will really make the high school look unprofessional, and my son, and that wouldn’t be good”</p>
<p>2] Turning down a wait list does not reflect badly on a HS in any way UNLESS the student tells the GC specifically to tell the college- this student WILL matriculate there if taken off the wait list, and then the student changes his mind. But that’s not a really, really big deal. [ Letting a Student apply ED to more than one college, now THAT will get a GC and a school in trouble] Students who actually have committed to colleges, and sent in their deposits, sometimes change their minds in the summer- that can happen if they finally clear the WL at another college- it’s called “summer melt” and colleges expect a certain amount of that to happen too.</p>
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<p>Yes, it’s outside USA.</p>
<p>OP, read this thread:</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/1110781-waitlisted-now-what.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/1110781-waitlisted-now-what.html</a></p>
<p>Thanks oldfort. I did a CC search and read all the threads; and then a google search and read the recent (yesterday) Education News, [The</a> Waitlist Strategy | EducationNews.org](<a href=“http://www.educationnews.org/commentaries/opinions_on_education/152385.html]The”>http://www.educationnews.org/commentaries/opinions_on_education/152385.html), NYT article, Time magazine and USNews articles and anything else I could find. Sometimes the articles had conflicting advice. The numbers for this specific school aren’t that encouraging. My question was specifically wondering if the GC called the regional rep and said my son would take the offer of admission if it was extended; is it offensive not to matriculate should the offer come through? Our thoughts are yes, you shouldn’t say you’ll go if you have any doubt whatsoever.</p>
<p>re your question-
from the other thread:</p>
<p>“As I stated before make sure that your child wants to attend before getting the GC/school involved in the process. From the school’s perspective they do not want to 'waste time” pursuing a kid on the waitlist who really does not want to come. From their end is is about maintaining relationships and having to face that same admissions rep next year. From the college’s perspective, they want to go to their waitlist call a student offer a spot and get an acceptance (they don’t want to go through a string of kids who are now on the fence)."</p>
<p>My daughter was waitlisted at 2 schools. I told GC to call up one of those schools to say D1 would attend if admitted (D1 was so out of it at that point that she didn’t want to deal with it any more). GC said to me that she wasn’t going to make that call unless we were absolutely sure. I would never put a GC in a bad situation with any school becasue it is important for he/she to have a trusted relationship with adcoms.</p>
<p>My advice is to contact the school in few weeks, after things have calmed down a bit. Read my post on what else your son could do aside from having his GC call.</p>
<p>He could have done some research. At the end of the date, it is your A’s grades, scores and essays. Suggest that he start a search for someone else through whom he can live vacariously.</p>