Is there more of a back story other than the bet? OP hasn’t been back in 2 days.
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He shaved it all off, as he was “going for a new look.” His hair was one of his greatest features. I don’t really know what to say to him, as he didn’t discuss it with me.
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And then he says he lost a bet…hmmm.
Sounds fishy.
so, I will make up a slightly more exciting backstory.
He has always wanted to test drive a motorcycle.
He had to borrow a helmet from the dealer, and they don’t check them in between.
He got lice from it,( ok this is a jump!) and it was easier to shave his head, than explain where he got them.
( or maybe he couldn’t bear the thought of having them crawl around up there)
I guess I must not be the suspicious type. I tend to accept what my DH tells me.
Most spouses trust each other–that is, until someone is caught lying or cheating. . . A sudden change in appearance is one very common sign of an affair. Not saying this guy is having one, but the story does sound a bit “off” to me.
Sorry, but a drastic change like shaving one’s head out of the blue - if thats a sign of an affair, which one would typically want to keep secret, thats a pretty dumb decision. JMO.
Maybe a balding guy would shave his head for an affair but the gentleman in question reportedly had a full head of great hair. What man is in a hurry to get bald? That makes no sense at all.
My DH has made bets with kids to dye his hair and done it. It’s the class first thing he thinks of to motivate a team. Thankfully he never bet to shave it or maybe he did but didn’t lose.
The shaving of the head isn’t the big sign that something is off…it’s the fact that he didn’t mention the bet when he first came home with the bald head. Even if he didn’t think to mention the bet and/or his need to shave his head after losing, you’d think that once he came home he would have said, “I lost a bet.” No, that story came later…which is why it sounds like he later told someone that his wife seemed annoyed, and that person supplied him with a response.
It could be on the up and up…but there are red flags here.
That makes no sense. Even if you accept the premise that the guy was having an affair and the other woman wanted him to go bald (???), the way you’d do that is to deliberately make a big deal out of it (“honey, I think I’m going to shave my head, I think it would look great, don’t you agree?”) so the wife DOESN’T think anything is amiss. You wouldn’t go do it and not discuss it. You’d work it into your everyday conversation as you normally would.
I can see how suddenly changing one’s appearance can be a red flag. But for what? I’m having a very hard time seeing shaving one’s head as a red flag for infidelity. Shaving a full head of hair looks to me like a lost bet, and probably a stupid one at that.
One would normally change one’s appearance for the BETTER! The OP wasn’t describing a balding guy with a comb-over where going full bald would be an improvement!
LOL I was also thinking if someone had a combover the bald look might be preferable!
I see this “suspicious” backstory in a completely different way. Guy made a bet, lost, came home and wife freaked out completely out of proportion to a temporary change in his looks. She was so incensed, mind you, that she’s since made him wear a hat in her presence. So he gets angry at her over-the-top reaction and says, “I don’t want to talk about it.” She probably followed him around insisting he tell her until he stomped out of the house.
Later, when he’d calmed down and hoped she had too, he explained about the bet. She is still angry and still thinks he’s shaved off his “crowning glory” and is now unattractive, and makes him wear a hat. To keep the peace, he does, and says it was a stupid bet. But he’s probably also still wondering what the heck the commotion was all about since it’s “just hair”. I don’t know too many men obsessed with their “crowning glory”.
I DO think there are problems in the marriage, but it’s not infidelity or hair. It’s about control.
Some people have some vivid imaginations!
I like my motorcycle backstory.
If my H shaved his head…it would be so out of character, that I might take him to the dr to get a brain scan to see if he had a tumor that was changing his personality.
Now if * shaved my head* on the other hand, he would automatically assume that someone dared me to.
I like the lice story, but as long as we are coming up with farfetched explanations, perhaps he held up a bank and there are police on the lookout. He shaved his head to lie low and escape the law!
If he had lice, the house would most likely have been infested by the time he found them in his hair… Sorry to poke a hole in that one…
Perhaps he was told he needed to go in witness protection and thought “na, I’ll just shave my head. Even my wife won’t recognize me”
I asked my husband about this and his theory is that there is a disgruntled girlfriend who got the guy drunk and then shaved his head while he was passed out.