<p>Between the woman who created the fake donation website and the new lawsuit for $100 million by one of the survivors’ families (the argument is that the school and the state failed to adequately protect the children), I’m embracing the “anger” stage now.</p>
<p>The other thread is closed.</p>
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As will this one be, if it continues to move away from its intent.</p>
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<p>A truly frivolous lawsuit. There was nothing the State or school could do to prevent the shooting other than be clairvoyant.</p>
<p>Agreeing with psychmom. I’m still feeling so very sad - for the children, the staff, and the families. I can’t imagine their thoughts about getting back to class after break. I know they will be a great support to each other. I think it is good that the retired principal will be back for them. A familiar face and smile will be welcome. Wish I could be there to give every staff member and every child a hug on that first day back.</p>
<p>EPTR, that is a really good suggestion about the door locks. I am going to look next time I am at my kid’s school (will be there next Saturday), and bring it up to our head of school if they can’t be locked from the inside. I get that this also could cause issues (definitely can imagine a group of teenagers locking the door while their teacher is in the hall!). But it could be worth it for safety in a lockdown situation.</p>
<p>For those not paying attention… Chedva, who just posted (#283), is one of our moderators, so we really need to listen to that post. She(?) has been modifying some of our posts to keep us going, but we don’t want to make extra work for the mods. So please try to stay away from the blame/political/etc. posts so we can keep this thread. Thanks.</p>
<p>I’ve been wondering when the first lawsuit would be filed, and by whom. I don’t know what to say. If I was the parent of a child who had survived, however traumatized he/she was, I don’t think I would ever in a million years think: gee – maybe I can turn this into dollars!</p>
<p>IMHO, if your child survived that horror you should be thanking the universe, not suing your fellow citizens for an obscene amount of money. If you want to sue someone, there are more appropriate targets, Nancy Lanza’s estate being one of them.</p>
<p>How does it make the parents of dead children feel? Your kid just HEARING the shots is worth $100 million…how much is my child’s LIFE worth? $200 milion? A billion? A trillion?</p>
<p>well said, consolation</p>
<p>Well, there will be more lawsuits against other targets, I am sure. 
But nothing makes it go away, for survivors or the families & friends of those who didn’t survive.</p>
<p>I agree, Consolation. I hope the suit is thrown out of court, and I hope there is general community condemnation in Newtown over parents of surviving kids trying to make a buck. If your child came out of that school that day, hold them tight, tell them you love them, and forget about lawsuits.</p>
<p>We put these bullet proof doors in airplanes with pilots, why not something like that for every classroom, and when kids are in the room, the doors are locked from the inside. It sounds to me like they actually did as many things right as possible, tried to stop him, turned on the pa, all the teachers shut their doors and hid the kids, etc. </p>
<p>I can hardly stand to look at 6 yo’s without feeling that awful pang. Who among us doesn’t remember how adorably cute our own kids were at that age?</p>
<p>I worry most about how terrified those kids had to have been. I don’t know how that town ever recovers, let alone the families. Who would even want to buy a house in that town now? </p>
<p>And now the ambulance chasing lowbrow attorneys are going to be circling like sharks. There is only so much money, that lawsuit makes me sick. I don’t know how that family walks around town with a child who survived.</p>
<p>I’m pretty sure bulletproof doors aren’t bulletproof against the kind of guns used in the Newtown shooting.</p>
<p>I think I have another emotion, hope, coming out of this. Not hope that anyone will look at this situation and come to some meaningful ways to try and prevent tragedies like this (quite frankly, I think some are so hardened in their beliefs or ideology or whatever that they cannot see humanity any more, and the parents suing are not doing that either…)…my sense of hope comes from the fact that in a society where all we are told is that people don’t care, people are selfish, self centered, immoral, whatever (as compared to what I would like to know…it sure as heck wasn’t the past, not by a long shot), that the teachers in that school found their full humanity and acted on it, especially those who sacrificed their lives to save the children. The principal and the psychologist could have hid out, the teachers probably could have evaded the gunmen and left the children to their fate, but they didn’t, they acted, and a number of them died for it; other teachers who were fortunate to survive used their training and cunning to frustrate someone who had lost their humanity and went wild, and saved a lot of kids. For that I have hope, that human beings still exist, still care, and also have hope that if my time comes that I can act the same way. Hope is a powerful thing, in crappy times,with all kinds of horrors, it often is all we have:)</p>
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<p>Not sure if I can post this here, but H received this from an acquaintance who is the uncle of one of the victims. His 20yo D made this in memory of her little cousin and the other children who died. It made me cry again, but I was impressed that this young lady could express her sorrow in a tribute like this</p>
<p>I am appreciating the moments with my 8 and 10 yo. more after this incident. The day of the shooting, when I picked up my girls from school, the parents–usually chatting by the front door of the school–were strangely silent. And there were many long, emotional hugs as the kids came out. My 2nd grader’s teacher has been in touch with the parents several times–even over break.</p>
<p>Hey 'rents.</p>
<p>I’m a student, and I frequently post on the High School Class of 2013/College Class of 2017 Parent’s thread here on CC. I live exactly 20 minutes away from Newtown. My school has been deeply affected by what transpired at Sandy Hook. I have friends who attend Newtown high school. A few of the teachers at my school live in Newtown. My brother plays baseball year around with two kids from Newtown, who also have younger siblings at Sandy Hook. One of my friends’ mothers works at Sandy Hook.</p>
<p>For this family to want to sue the state of Connecticut for what their daughter is now suffering through is ridiculous, and, to be honest, it hurts mine and my community members’ feelings so much.</p>
<p>Yes, our schools can be safer. The current system of people getting buzzed in and let in without knowing who they are isn’t the safest. That can be changed. As another poster said, we can put bulletproof doors and glass up in our schools. But, that would cost a lot of money-money a lot of towns, like mine, don’t have. The only way we’d be able to get that money would be for the state or federal government to provide us with it. </p>
<p>Because I’m only seventeen and haven’t had much experience learning how to deal with things as tragic as this (that I can actually completely remember-I was only in first grade when 9/11 happened), can someone please explain to me why these people are suing the state for $100 million? Do they plan on giving the money back to different communities, or keeping it for themselves? I can’t seem to really find much in what I’ve researched, but it’s astonishing, and it gives me knots in my stomach, to think that these people, and the lawyer, would pocket all of this money, even though they’re doing it for the sake of “safety,” as the lawyer put it.</p>
<p>Thanks, 'rents.</p>
<p>Normally when someone sues for $100 million and wins, they keep the money. Well, their lawyer gets a big chunk of it, and they keep the rest. In other words, the people suing are doing it for the money. I’m unclear as to why the people suing think the state of Connecticut is negligent to the tune of 50 cents, let alone $100 million.</p>
<p>On the bright side, I agree with musicprnt about how inspiring the teachers were. It shows us that in the midst of tragedy, good yet remains in the world. I hope those who loved the six adults who perished in the school can gain some solace in the knowledge that their loved ones left this earth in bravery and kindness, as heroes, acting as we all wish we would have the courage and presence of mind to act if we had to face the same situation. RIP, heroes.</p>
<p>Apparently some entity–the state courts?-- has to agree to let them sue the state, which is normally not liable. We can only hope that whoever hears the case has the guts to say no.</p>
<p>I am not sure why this family is suing. I can only speculate that they may be thinking about future medical bills. Anyhow, I don’t want to get into details or judge these victims. However, it does lead me wonder if a fund is being set up for the surviving victims and first responders. I imagine these victims and their families will need mental health counseling, etc for years. If those of us who are not connected to these people in any way are sad, I cannot imagine the trauma these families are living with. I have seen fundraisers but I am not sure what the money is being used for. </p>
<p>Personally, I wept openly when I saw the news. I have not been this sad and felt so helpless since 911. I could not imagine how this could even happen. We live about 30 minutes away and my D’s friend often babysits for some of the families over there. Thankfully, none of her kids were killed but she is still upset. She is going to be a teacher. Kudos to her.</p>
<p>My D’s HS principal wrote a touching letter to our town’s families about the tragedy. In the letter, he stated that often these killers feel disconnected with the community. He went on to say that we should reach out to those who feel isolated and rejected and try to include them in our communities so that they feel included and cared for and we are more aware of people in our community. I thought he made a good point. Exclusion is so prevalent from middle school to high school. We place a high value on popularity and sports.Those kids that are introverted, have health issues or just don’t fit the mold become invisible. Sometimes the exclusion is not intentional and sometimes it is. We have talked a lot about bullying but not exclusion, which is a quiet form of bullying. Even in the workplace, we have started to embrace the inclusion concept to have a better working environment. I work with lots of brilliant people but many are introverts and just need a bit of nudging to open up.</p>
<p>My heart is still heavy and my prayers go out for these families to find peace. I am hopeful, we will learn to be kinder to each other from this.</p>