I cannot believe Bill Cosby flew under the radar for so long

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<p><a href=“Ex-NBC employee says he sent money to women for Bill Cosby”>http://t.today.com/news/ex-nbc-employee-says-he-paid-women-bill-cosby-1D80311460&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>Hmmmm…money orders. Photos of money orders.</p>

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<p>From dstark’s link:</p>

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<p>To me, it’s much more illogical that 18 women would be putting forth essentially the same story if it weren’t true.</p>

<p>(I think there’s a triple negative in there somewhere. In other words, so many women saying essentially the same thing means, in my book, that it’s most likely true.)</p>

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<p>He certainly was careful about selecting his victims. That makes it much less likely they would report to police and be believed. A rich, powerful man with his staff vs a young powerless teen or young woman–who would be believed? </p>

<p>Who would claim there’s a shakedown for money and that the female should be blacklisted? With the wholesome image being projected, it would be even harder for an unknown teen/young woman to get any conviction or justice. Doesn’t surprise me at all that the females remained silent. </p>

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<p>No, it doesn’t surprise me at all.</p>

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<p>Very similar to the 1950-70’s child victims of clergy abuse. Imagine contemplating having to tell an adult that a priest assaulted you. Same goes for the guy on the Jello pudding commercials. Who would ever believe that he was capable of that.</p>

<p>And WHAT is the deal with the curry eating exhibitionism?! Is that a thing?!</p>

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<p>Many rape victims keep silent. Sometimes due to shame, sometimes out of fear, sometimes out of the belief that no one will believe them.</p>

<p>I kept silent for 35 years.</p>

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<p>KKmama, sorry you have to carry that burden, and sorry that you had to carry it alone for 35 years. I completely understand why women would keep silent.</p>

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<p>Cardinal,
No sympathy needed. Long time ago. It just annoys the &*^% out of me when people think that women are lying when they finally speak up. These women have much more to lose (being accused of lying or having ulterior motives, public scrutiny, dredging up past pain) by speaking up than they may have to gain. </p>

<p>And yes, more and more women come forward because there is safety in numbers. I don’t think they are jumping on a bandwagon.</p>

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<p>Also they come forward because if you’re the first accuser of a famous person, nobody believes you. If you’re the 16th, people are starting to realize that the accusers are telling the truth.</p>

<p>It annoys the heck out of me when people say they don’t know anyone who has been raped. They do, but the people haven’t told them. It’s not like people who have been raped want to shout it from the housetops.</p>

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<p>I met my first rape victim in college when we were pledging for a sorority. She was very nervous around men, especially at frat parties. I could certainly understand and made sure never to be alone with any male at any party. I have since met others who have also been raped. It’s sadly a LOT more common than many folks realize. </p>

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<p>Not sure this AP clip was posted with Cosby refusing to speak about the sex assault allegations and making some threats to the AP reporter if the video refusing to answer is shown. </p>

<p><a href=“Bill Cosby AP video: Why did the news organization suppress it for more than a week?”>http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2014/11/20/bill_cosby_ap_video_why_did_the_news_organization_suppress_it_for_more_than.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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<p>Comments by a friend of mine: </p>

<p>“My husband worked on a Cosby engagement many many years ago and, after watching the way he treated others backstage, was positive Cosby was a very very VERY dishonest, BAD man. In the 30 years I have known him, ***'s intuition has always been meticulously spot on.”</p>

<p>“I observed terrified children and their equally terrified parents in the hallways outside the room in which kids were auditioning for JELLO commercial with Cosby. He was on a tear. As usual, I was told.”</p>

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<p>Cosby didn’t have to resort to drugging and raping young women because he easily could have affairs. He already had one long affair (likely others). I’m not condoning affairs, but he likely could get anyone he wanted and had affairs. Then again, having sex with women without their consent is more than about sex. </p>

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<p>Soozievt,
There is a huge difference between an affair and what Cosby was doing. At least an affair means having a relationship with someone (albeit illicit). And as you remind yourself, an affair is usually carried out be mutual consent, unless it is caught up in a power/authority situation when one of the two believes that s/he doesn’t have the choice to say no without repercussion.
Drugging and raping is about power and ego and selfishness and the thrill of risk or thrill of feeling powerful.</p>

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<p>Soozievt - you are so missing the point. He could have gotten anybody he wanted ( although, not me, LOL), but that it is not how he wanted it. That was easy. He liked the power, the control and he wanted to be able to choose women of “his” choosing. Young or old under his control. The more he got away with it the more powerful he became.</p>

<p>He is not in my mind a “hot guy” that I’d be chasing or should I say “flocking”. </p>

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<p>Everything I read about Cosby and these awful scandals seem to be definitely about power and abuse. The video link I posted about the AP interview was also abot power–I am not talking about this and I don’t want this part of the interview aired. Have your manager know that I don’t want it aired. Drugging and raping unconscious and semi-conscious young women and teens – just ick! Some of those teens were reportedly 16, which is statutory rape in many states.</p>

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<p>I did acknowledge in my post:</p>

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<p>Glad he “quit” Temple U’s Board. <a href=“Reuters | Breaking International News & Views”>Reuters | Breaking International News & Views;

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<p>And some of his honorary doctorates and appointments have been revoked <a href=“The Source |Bill Cosby Losing Collegiate Respect After Sexual Assault Allegations”>http://thesource.com/2014/11/28/bill-cosby-losing-collegiate-respect-after-sexual-assault-allegations/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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<p>But he & his wife gave Spelman $20 million, and they’re not giving it back.
<a href=“A Black College Gets Cosby Gift Of $20 Million - The New York Times”>http://www.nytimes.com/1988/11/08/us/a-black-college-gets-cosby-gift-of-20-million.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;