<p>Reverience,</p>
<p>I had parents who sound very similar to yours, and many of the people who participate here are parents like yours and mine.</p>
<p>I was also raised with the belief that because of my education, including studying three languages other than my native tongue, it would be a mistake for me not to go to college. So I went to college when I was your age. After about a year of college, I had no idea what I was doing there and why I had gone to college. I ended up dropping out.</p>
<p>It took me some time then to find the college that was right for me, instead of the kind of college that my parents wanted me to attend. There were college options that really my parents hadn’t let me find out about. I ended up graduating from a college that many people here don’t speak very highly of–but it was exactly the right college for what I was interested in doing and for my own personal learning style.</p>
<p>The world really has changed, and there are many many intelligent succesful people today who don’t have college degrees. Despite what my parents told me, and what yours are telling you.</p>
<p>Also, college isn’t going anywhere. There is no reason why particularly you (or anyone else) has to go to college RIGHT NOW. If you have something else to do it might be a good idea to postpone your college until you will be able to give college your full attention. Really, nobody is going to discriminate against you if you go to college later than right after high school. The admissions people don’t mind, the other students don’t mind, the only people who seem to mind are parents (and they don’t really have any good reason for saying the things they do about whether you should go to college now or later).</p>
<p>You say you are interested in music, but you want to study it from a more practical than theoretical angle. I felt (and still feel) the same way about theatre. For me it is because I can just read all the theoretical books and learn all the same stuff I would learn listening to a whole bunch of theoretical lectures, but I can’t learn the practical things from books–that has to be “hands on”. So I found a college that teaches theatre the way that I learn. And somewhere there is also an educational program in music that teaches music the way that you learn it.</p>
<p>I’m only saying these things because when I was your age nobody explained these other options to me, and nobody explained to me that if I took one of these other options that wouldn’t somehow make me a “bad person”. I wish somebody had explained these things to me. My parents instead pressured me to pretty much live the same life that they had lived, it didn’t occur to them that maybe the best life for me would be something completely different from their life. And I know that my views on this subject put me at odds with the prevailing ethos here, and most of the parents here (almost entirely mothers for some reason, it seems to me) are going to insist that I am completely wrong and possibly will attack me for my opinions. And probably you yourself are going to listen to the people you trust and respect, which is of course your parents, instead of some bizarre stranger you met on the Internet. But just by telling you these things I have done something for you that nobody did for me when I was your age, and maybe if someone had I would be in a better place now with my life than I am.</p>
<p>KEVP</p>