Hey everyone, I need a little help here. I was talking to my boyfriend because I was a bit sad about my music grade, because one quiz counts for 20% of the grade and I got a 70 on it. Anyway, I then royally screwed up by saying “I only have a 3.6 gpa which is kind of bad aha”. He then got kind of upset with me, because he has a 3.2 gpa, weighted. I don’t really understand why this is, because he’s in 2 AP classes and a couple of honors. I tried to cheer him up by saying that colleges would see that he challenged himself and also see his part time job (he’s a receptionist at a hair salon). I also apologized and we started talking about something else, but I still feel really bad about it…what can I do to make him feel better? (FYI: We live in driving distance of each other, but we’re pretty much long distance, so I need something I can do that doesn’t involve being there in person.)
I am not sure I would say anything more. Bringing it up might just remind him of your comments.
But if you do then say that you have been reading too much CC where everyone has 4.5 GPA and 1600 SATs (lol). You are proud of him challenging himself by taking AP classes.
Okay, thanks. He did text me today, so I assume things are going well.
i would say the best thing would be to just stop complaining about your grades to him, and don’t try to convince him he’s a good candidate despite his grades. just don’t talk about grades
While it’s nice that you want to be kind to him, as a woman I’d also caution you against hiding your talents under a bushel. This is the advice that most of the world gives to women all too often: Your achievements don’t matter compared with the hurt feelings of X person.
- Bragging and rubbing his face in something, is not what you intended. It is also not what you did.
- You seem nice and kind.
- If he's upset, while you were kind, that's his issue and you really do not need to hide your talents.
- Does he expect you to hide the fact that you're a good student and he's not, like, forever?
- On average in America, across socioeconomic brackets, across racial and color lines, girls outperform boys in school. There are more women than men in higher ed. Women on average (number of women finishng college) tend to be more qualified. At some point you will probably find a guy who is strong enough to not be intimidated by you, either that or he can up his game and learn to compete better in the world.
- This boyfriend will probably not last regardless of your grades and his attitude towards them, because of your age. High school relationships rarely last.
- Again, while you can be kind (and it seems that you are) you should in no way hide your talents ever ever, never ever.
You will need every talent and strategy that you have to move forward in the world. You will find a partner who can champion your achievements and not force you to cover them up. Find that person. And then also support him in the same way.
Tell the world about your accomplishments. Just be kind about how you do so, as you are already.