<p>Here is the situation, i have a co-worker who i am interested in. Simple enough.
He seems to be interested in me.</p>
<p>Here is the dilema, he is a little older than me, and i think that the only reason he hasn’t asked me out is that he might think i’m too young to really be interested in him.</p>
<p>So, i’ve never been good at this kind of thing, i just don’t know how to ask him out or like give him my number without making it awkward.</p>
<p>HELP!</p>
<p>What kind of age difference are we talking about? 20-18? 25-20? or 45-25?</p>
<p>Umm it’s 15 years difference. 
i’m 18, be 19 soon. He is 33.</p>
<p>That’s a bit …big. But, if you think you’d still be comfortable with him at work if something happened, you can. But, if it would make word awkward, don’t. If you’re serious, before one of you quits, get his number. Just don’t do it too early. Imagine if you date/breakup–and he becomes your boss… Bad.</p>
<p>Avoid the awkwardness for now. See how this continues.</p>
<p>That’s not a normal age difference. It would be really creepy if you had any kind of intimate relationship with him.</p>
<p>I’m not sure why you’re even considering it as a possibility.</p>
<p>It’s not completely creepy, particularly for a girl dating an older guy. Plenty of married couples are ten to fifteen years apart. I don’t know if I’d ever go that far apart, but if it works, it works.</p>
<p>I agree with asdfjkl1. Make sure you’d be comfy if you broke up and had to keep working together. If you are, then you may as well go for it. I’d suggest getting him outside work first; he could be a completely different person when he’s working. Maybe ask a few different friends from your workplace so it doesn’t seem as… “awkward”.</p>
<p>Also, keep in mind he IS 33. He’s probably been dating for years so don’t do the whole high school dating thing of getting really immature about the whole thing. Try organising something as a group, then maybe suggest getting dinner after a late shift or something.</p>
<p>Also, make sure he’s a pretty fckn hot and fun 33 year old. It’s no use dating a guy that much older than you if you can get better, younger and more entertaining.</p>
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It is not normal for a 33-year old to be dating an 18-year old, not at all.</p>
<p>You are going to get BORED. There are VERY few interests u will have in common with him.</p>
<p>33-year old dating an 18-year old is pretty creepy. Heck, I’m 19 and I feel somewhat weird checking out 16-year olds, and they’re only 3 years younger than me.</p>
<p>I remember reading somewhere that if you want to find out what age difference would be considered acceptable by society, you divide the older persons age by 2, then add 7. If that adjusted number is less than the older person’s age, then it isn’t considered acceptable by society.</p>
<p>33/2 = 16.5 + 7 = 23.5…so by that measure, it’d be deemed acceptable by society for the 33-year old to date anyone older than 23.</p>
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<p>Maybe you should just go along, let it happen and see if it works. Your ‘mental’ ages may be similar. But first : ask. You won’t see the specifics if you don’t look into them.</p>
<p>I actually have a fair amount in common with him. I’m 18, but i’m not a ‘normal’ 18 year old. EVERY guy i have dated has been older than me, but i’ve never actually had to pursue it.</p>
<p>I know the only reason he hasn’t asked is because i’m so young.</p>
<p>As far as being uncomfortable at work… well my last day is June 9th, not so far a way, and i’m doubting it could be so awkward for just a few days.</p>
<p>He is gorgeous. HANDSOME. One of the best looking guys that i have ever met. He’s kind of got a side to him that is like a little kid, which is fun, but he’s also older and more mature.</p>
<p>My parents are 22 years apart. My mom started dating my dad when she was 19. It was a big to-do in the small town, but they moved to a much bigger city and voila, no one cared.</p>
<p>I’ve never been remotely attracted to the men my age. Hope i never will be either.</p>
<p>XD</p>
<p>He was legally drinking alcohol before you started kindergarten.</p>
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<p>I think that’s a really good reason. there’s no reason a 33 year old should be asking an 18 year old out.</p>
<p>My dad was legally drinking before my mom was born.</p>
<p>I’m not here to be talked out of it, i just want some tips on how to approach the subject without it seeming awkward.</p>
<p>Have you ever thought that maybe the guy doesn’t like you and that this interest that you think he has for you is just friendly flirting or niceness or whatever it is that he does that makes you think he’s interested in you.</p>
<p>I guess one thing you could do is set him up. You start talking about a movie that is coming out soon. If he says he wants to see it, then you say you also really want to see it. You can leave it at that, or you can say something to the effect of “but I don’t know who I’d see it with.” If he’s interested and has a pair, he should get the message and ask you if you want to see it with him.</p>
<p>Or you could wear the pants and take some initiative by asking him out.</p>
<p>If he is shy/fearing the age difference in just asking for a casual date, do not expect to go hand in hand in public. The lack of confidence you are both facing is not based on the same thought. To be young, seen with someone older is thrilling, and exciting. He ‘should’ be more mature, charming, and better at… certain things.
He, on the other hand, will most likely be reserved about asking because of the stigmatism that comes with this sort of age difference. unless he and his friends are pigs, the prospect of dating an 18 year old might be exciting but not for the previously mentioned reasons.</p>
<p>If it is something you want to pursue, then by all means get to know the guy and ask him if he would like to take you shopping, grab something to eat, or something casual. make a date, but don’t start dating. if it does blossom into a great relationship then you beat the odds and found something great. if it doesn’t, move on quick and keep living. you are 18. you are old enough to know what you want but young enough to change your mind.</p>
<p>Hey, even if he’s 70, go for it. I won’t do that, but whatever floats your boat I guess.</p>
<p>You guys realize she ALREADY SAID she was going for it, she’s just unsure as to how.</p>
<p>A line that usually gets the point across:</p>
<p>“Want to go out on a date?”</p>
<p>Guys usually have to be a little bit more imaginative, but because you’re a girl, you can probably say whatever you want and he’ll probably respond honestly.</p>
<p>^I wonder how long it’s gonna take the moderators at cc to yank that YouTube link?</p>
<p>I’m gonna go with 2 hours 27 minutes</p>