I’m currently a freshman at URI and I already want to leave. It’s only been a week but I realized that going away to college is not what I wanted. I never really wanted to go away in the first place but I thought it would be a good experience for me (I was wrong). I’m extremely homesick which I get that everyone is but it has gotten so severe that it has put me in a depressed state and I don’t want it to effect my studies. It also doesn’t help that my roommates suck and feel extremely uncomfortable in my own room. Everyone I’ve talked to said “give it time, it’ll get better” but I know it won’t. I feel like transferring to a school where i can just commute would be better because you don’t really need to have a “social life” and I can just focus on my studies instead of thinking of ways to make friends. I’ve put myself out there all the time but I really haven’t made a single friend and don’t want to waste my parents money since they’re paying a lot of money for me to go here. PLEASE HELP!
You said it yourself. It has ONLY been a week. Keep putting yourself out there and try to get to know the students in your classes. There is probably a student activities fair. Get involved in a group that appeals to you. Unless you want to withdraw now (and lose the tuition money), you will be there for at least one term. You might find that you like it better by then.
Go read this post & comments: http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/1809386-i-fear-ive-made-a-big-mistake.html#latest
And that’s certainly not the only one on CC.
The thing is going away to college is not always easy, for lots of reasons: being all the way ‘new’ / not knowing where things are or how things are done / shy or introverted temperament / being unlucky in roommate-dorm-particular class / feeling as though ‘everybody else’ is handling it better than you. And thinking you are the only one- or that it is somehow worse for you than other people.
^^ be sure you can tell the difference between making a thoughtful choice and running away from a challenging situation. There are a lot of important ways in which you are growing and changing at this stage of life. Some of them just aren’t easy- but they are important. All adventures have hard parts- that’s what make it an adventure
Maybe URI isn’t for you, but it is really not likely that you have enough information to know that yet.