<p>At this school, yes, the boys should not turn a girl down for prom. This unspoken rule does not hold true for other function, just the prom and another “society” dance where girls ask boys to the dance.</p>
<p>Understand that I do not have children that have attended this school, I am on going by what my friends have shared with me as their children attend.</p>
<p>Snowball, if she told a friend, she blabbed. There was no reason to reveal that fact. Sorry. If the friend was from another circle, or different school, and did not know the boy, I might buy that it was o.k. to get advice on how to kindly say no. But obviously her blabbing led to a big gossipy mess. There is no such thing as a secret once you share it with another.</p>
<p>It’s all about blaming women.</p>
<p>It’s only if she said yes to the first that she must go with him or not at all.</p>
<p>agreed</p>
<p>I dont have a problem with a girl turning someone down- if done kindly.</p>
<p>What is worse is going with someone you aren’t interested in- ( not that you have to go with a potential romantic partner), which takes away their chance of finding someone who really would want to go with them, but also gives them the impression that the relationship will continue.</p>
<p>Its fine to go with friends, with other girls, even with a boyfriend you broke up with, but you mutually agree that you want to attend this event together.
But no one likes pity dates</p>
<p>Its not a judgement
If boys were colleges- I married more a vocational school type- instead of a big 10 or a Princeton, because that is who I fell in love with.</p>
<p>I also have asked boys to things- and actually I have never been turned down.
I don’t know if that is because boys are so grateful not to have to always do the asking that they accepted, even if they weren’t that interested, or if girls, with their “advanced social skills” ;), are just better at gauging acceptance rate</p>
<p>Maybe someone should suggest that this “unwritten” school rule be clarified and put in writing. Perhaps then people would see how ridiculous this is.</p>
<p>Don’t forget all the guys the boy told! They are the same boys that will not ask out a girl that has refused a date to show respect to their male classmate. These are high school kids, they share their tears, fears, and happiness.</p>
<p>My point to posting this story was to show how one school viewed what the OP posted. I for one do not agree with it, but these kids seem to know how the school feels about it and most seem to do what is “right”. The child is not sitting at home crying; she does think she made a mistake turning the boy down, but only because it was expected of her to say yes.</p>