<p>I don’t feel the same affinity toward my school that a lot other freshman do. Is it too soon to decide, or should I start thinking about finding somewhere new, a school that I could love? Is it possible that loving a college is something that happens over time, and isn’t as instantaneous for some people as others, or is will I always feel as apathetic toward my school?</p>
<p>Almost everyone feels apathetic toward their school. Joke thread?</p>
<p>Hmm not at my school. people are legit in love…or at least say they are.</p>
<p>I think the real problem is that the college sees everyone as a just a friend.</p>
<p>Why would you transfer just because you don’t get turned on by your school? I could understand transferring if you HATE your school, but you suggest that you’re simply apathetic. This reason, by itself, does not justify transferring.</p>
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<li><p>It is too soon to decide.</p></li>
<li><p>Transferring completely sucks unless you are miserable at your first school and need a change, and then sometimes it still sucks. And for all you know, you’ll transfer to a school and hate it there, and then find you loved your old school.</p></li>
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<p>Conclusion: Put more effort into finding things to love about your own school, chances are at this point you are missing out on something-- even if it’s just giving yourself time to love it. Transfer if and only if you are miserable, in dire financial straits and need a cheaper school, or if it doesn’t offer the academic opportunities you require.</p>
<p>Well it all depends on depends… If academics is part of the reason on why you hate your school then its more important. However, if academics ain’t a part of it then can you afford going to another school financially and would those credits transfer over? I am in the same situation as you with my new school since I had to transfer here cause of finances however I can’t afford going to another school cause of finances again. If you want to PM me why you hate the school then we can talk about it privately without anyone knowing. It’s your choice but I would love to help you cause I know exactly how you feel since I’m in the same situation.</p>
<p>If you don’t hate it there, give it time.</p>
<p>I agree, give it more time. I mean are you a freshmen? If so see how you do the first year.</p>
<p>Some people just don’t have the personality to LOVE things such as a school. I’m one of those people too. I agree with everyone else. If you like it… and feel you’ll get a great education there, it’s possible the feeling will grow on you and even if it doesn’t…It’s probably not something that a transfer will fix.</p>
<p>a lot of freshmen say they LOVE their school because they can finally do whatever the hell they want. They’re no longer living with Mom at home in a small town. they can take the classes they want, stay out as late as they want, make lots of new friends, go to college parties, games, blahblahblah…so I think the newfound freedom college brings is what makes most freshmen initially so excited. It’s like Recess time for kindergarteners. </p>
<p>A lot of adults who talk about how they “loved college” are remembering being young, happy, having lots of freedom and not too much responsbility. you can get that experience in many colleges, it’s not like there’s only 1 that’s a “perfect fit”. </p>
<p>this idea of “falling in love” with a school is usually something i see HS kids write on CC, but I’ve never heard anyone say it in real life. the average person either doesn’t go to college, or simply goes to the local State U. I definitely wouldn’t reccommend transferring unless you’re unhappy or have financial problems, or if you’re really convinced that X school would be an amazing opportunity for you, make you way happier, etc…</p>
<p>I love my school. Seriously. I think it’s important to seek out the roots of your apathy- what exactly do you dislike? Is the it campus? The people? Your roommate? Just based off the experiences that I’ve had so far, the hackneyed adage “it’s what you make of it” holds a lot of truth to it. You have to seek out the experiences, and one way to do this is by connecting with a number of interesting people. There are so many opportunities! </p>
<p>Good luck.</p>
<p>It’s still too soon to decide. Just try to be more involved on campus and look for more opportunities to be active. College is what you make it to be so go out there and take advantage of everything it has to offer. As for me, I don’t LOVE my college but I do like it a lot because of the things there are here and of the people I have met so far. It took me a year to adjust and find my niche here. My dorm was not as active or close as many of the other dorms on campus and I felt like a loner and left out a lot. But I joined clubs and found people and I have loved it ever since. As long as you put the effort into putting yourself out there, you will see how good it really is. However, if you really can’t find your niche after you’ve exhausted everything, THEN maybe you should transfer.</p>
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<p>Almost everybody I talk to at Michigan says that they LOVE their school. The same thing I’ve found to be true at most all top universities. It could be that some people just don’t have the personality to love where they’re at, or maybe it’s because don’t expect to love it. </p>
<p>Honestly, when it comes to college, if you don’t love it after a few semesters I would transfer. These are the best concentrated four years of your life to “love”, why miss out?</p>
<p>^ Well, I do expect people at pricier (often top) universities to love their school more than the average person. But the point I was trying to make is that on this site, people make a much bigger deal over college admissions than the average person does. I think tranfering is good if you’re unhappy, but going through the hassle of transfering because you’re not “in love” with a school seems odd to me - unless it’s a financial burden.</p>
<p>the other thing I was trying to get at, and Zenbadabing put this well, is that a lot of your experience is what you make of it. For example, I don’t love my college itself, most people here dislike the administration and there’s not much school spirit, but I’m loving my college experience and most of my friends would say the same. I notice a lot of posts where people complain about hating college because they’re having trouble making friends or something and they want to transfer, but a lot of times that has to do with underlying issues rather than the college itself (i’m not talking about this thread btw).</p>
<p>hmmm can’t say i’m particularly loving my college experience either. i don’t mean to b**** about it, but is it possible that i’m just incompatible with my school??</p>
<p>Whoa! Had to stop lurking and put a post up after looking at this thread. Are you saying you’ve been at your college for what, THREE MONTHS and are already sure it’s not the place for you? I have to know - what place could be THAT BAD? Point is, three months is nothing in th e scheme of things. It takes longer than that to fall in love with anyone or anything! Did I love my college? Not so much at first and I don’t know if I can say I ever truly LOVED it. But I did end up loving a lot of things about it - I had some terrific classes and met some great people and the experience had a lot to do with who I am today. And I do have fond enough memories to feel a bit emotional when I go back for the rare visit. Much more emotional, I should add, than when I was there! A lot of people talk about transferring but the ones that do are seldom all that much better off than they were at their first college (unless we’re talking money, which can be a valid reason to transfer). Honestly, I say give it a good chance of at least a full academic year. And while you’re at it, try to see the positive aspects (there must be SOME!) and don’t dwell on the negative. Everyone who has ever worked in an office knows the person who loves to rag on everyone and everything and doesn’t have a whole lot constructive to say. I’m not saying that’s you, but it’s too easy to look at something and see it the way you want to see it. Try seeing the good. Try making believe that you DO love the place and see what happens! Best of luck. Now back to lurking.</p>
<p>Suck it up.</p>
<p>Collegeinthe 80’s- it sounds like you are happy leading a mediocre life with mediocre things in your life- and that’s fine. but what’s so wrong about transferring and looking for another school that will hopefully bring the type of college experience hoped for? As long as the person has realistic expectations, and knows that the early stages of a new school can still be rough, I think the advice you’re giving is wrong. College has changed since the 80s, so maybe you’re advice is better kept to yourself.</p>
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<p>Are you kidding me? College is not the “best four years” for everyone. Plus, not everyone needs to “love” a school to be successful in it. I don’t know whence this notion came, but it’s absurd. </p>
<p>I wouldn’t transfer unless you are actually unhappy. If you’re apathetic, stay.</p>