I'm not going without her..what to do?

<p>I have known allie since the day i was born, literally. We know eachother because both of our parents attended the same small liberal arts school.
Allie has wanted to go there more than anything her entire life. I, on the other hand, have been looking at a couple ivies and other top schools. </p>

<p>However, i have recently realized that i really can't see myself being truly happy anywhere besides this small school. See it wasnt just that all of our parents went there, we have so many connections with the school. we have vacation homes right next to it, my dad taught there, we went to summer camps there, we summered there, and we basically grew up on this campus.
Now the time has come to apply..
I will get into the school easily. its not a top school and i have already been heavily recruited by the coach, i have the grades sats and everything else. i will also get a lot of scholarship offers, like for nmsf and the school gives one for ib students.
i thought allie would be okay getting in considering the donations her father has made to the school. allie is an average type student with no extracurriculars, but shes a double legacy and huge donor. soo i thought she would be okay until i read her essay. it is probably the worst thing i've ever read but i dont know how to tell her that! the first sentences goes something like "my name is allie and i have lived in the small town of *** for my entire life." its terrible</p>

<p>what do i do?? i cant go there without her but her essay is crap. should i help her rewrite it (she thinks its good)?</p>

<p>Have someone else read the essay for an unbiased third opinion. The essay probably won't be a make-or-break though.</p>

<p>Well, the op does say she's an average student with no ec's. So what may be an easy admit for the op may not be the same for the chick...but a killer essay could change this. Maybe you should buy her an essay book or something, or just be like, wouldn't it be cool if you did this? The thrid person idea does sound good though.</p>

<p>My dad read her essay over as well (not exactly unbiased but closer) and thought it was awful too. like even my 7th grade brother thinks he can write something better its just so bad.</p>

<p>maybe you can help her rewrite it?</p>

<p>Just go up to her all chill and all, and be like, woman, your essay is messy and discombobulated. And not in a dope-ass James Joyce-esque way either. Messy like our current Iraq exit strategy, and discombobulated like FEMA at high tide. That'll get her attention.</p>

<p>what college is it?</p>

<p>Be honest. Show her this thread maybe. </p>

<p>Ha ha</p>

<p>maybe show her some examples of real college admission essays online or in books and be like, " this is how your essay is supposed to be like."</p>

<p>enderkin, i read your words and started laughing</p>

<p>excellent reply =)</p>

<p>"what do i do?? i cant go there without her"</p>

<p>I don't understand why you're making your college decision based on your best friend. At some point unless you two are so close that you will virtually be married, you will have to live your life separately from hers. </p>

<p>Just because you are best friends with someone doesn't mean that you need to be virtually glued to them. </p>

<p>I think you're making a mistake to make your college plans based on hers. It is possible to maintain friendships -- including close ones -- at separate colleges. Being a friend to someone doesn't mean closing yourself off to good opportunities for yourself. It also may be good for you to have a college experience in a new place instead of in the town where you've spent summers. </p>

<p>Also, if the school isn't that highly rated, and her parents are big donors and alum, she'll probably get in no matter how mediocre her essay is.</p>

<p>It may be healthier for your character if you started acting a little bit more independently from your friend. That's not to say that you should not help her with constructive criticism, etc.</p>

<p>From your back posts, I see that the school that you're talking about is a public LAC. Virtually all public institutions base their admissions overwhelmingly on grades, scores and high school curriculum. Essays, extracurriculars and even donations count little if at all in admissions. The only non stat factor that can be important is being a recruited athlete.</p>

<p>I don't think you need to worry about your friend's essay.</p>

<p>Thanks for all your replies!
I feel a little better about Allie getting in now. and this wknd she decided she is going to apply there ED so that should help a lot!</p>

<p>Oh, and about the independence thing..I am actually extremely independent and Allie and I aren't so much attached to eachother (we don't even go to the same highschool) as in we're basically family. It would just be weird to go to this school without her and I would actually not do that.
I am writing a peer recommendation for her.. do you think it would do anything at all if i mentioned that I would not attend the school if she does not get in?</p>

<p>Before you get more worried about my independence its really just that part of this school's appeal is that we would be there together, just like our parents we were room mates and it would be perfect. I am applying to other schools and have other options this is just where i could best see myself..</p>

<p>any thoughts anyone?
this is really stressing me out</p>

<p>geez, public LAC? I can see from your other posts that you can do much better...</p>

<p>"I am writing a peer recommendation for her.. do you think it would do anything at all if i mentioned that I would not attend the school if she does not get in?"</p>

<p>Does the school require a peer recommendation or are you sending this unrequested? If it's the latter, the school probably will ignore it.</p>

<p>As for your saying that you won't go if she doesn't get in, I think that will hurt both of your chances even if you'd be a top recruit for them. Writing something like that would seem like a threat, and colleges aren't likely to take kindly to that. Such a statement also would make both you and your friend seem immature and very dependant on each other.</p>

<p>If you're like basically family you can just tell her that the essay may need some serious improvement. I know some of you guys think it's unwise for her to go to this school considering her qualifications, but I think she has weighed the choices for quite awhile.</p>

<p>okay good thinking northstarmom.</p>

<p>and jfs4691- although this is one of the top public lacs in the country i'm talking about, i know that i can do "better"
frankly, i really don't care</p>

<p>"frankly, i really don't care"</p>

<p>-lol why? i'm sure you can find a school that is better for job placement/graduate school with better academics that is also a fit for you.</p>