<p>why?
because this school is a fit for me in terms of me wanting to be there
academically it sends enough students to top grad schools that i’m not too worried</p>
<p>if you got in and your friend did not, would you still go to that school?</p>
<p>that’s the question i’ve been struggling with for the last couple months.
i mean i haven’t found any school yet that really strikes me as being amazing and the only place i could see myself. i like about 5 schools equally and for different reasons but right now im leaning toward this one because Allie would be there. so no i probably would not go there if she didnt get in.</p>
<p>if you would not go to this school if your friend was not there, this school is clearly not the best school for you. </p>
<p>“why?
because this school is a fit for me in terms of me wanting to be there
academically it sends enough students to top grad schools that i’m not too worried”</p>
<p>-if this was true…you would go whether your friend was there or not.</p>
<p>i haven’t found another school i like better yet. however, i cannot imagine going there without her. it would kill our relationship and the experience wouldn’t be the same and there are 4 other schools i like as well…</p>
<p>Why would it kill your relationship with your friend if you went there after she was rejected from it? IMO if she truly were a good friend, she wouldn’t hold that against you. It’s not as if her not getting in would be your fault.</p>
<p>You’ve said that the school is the best fit for you, so IMO whether or not she got in, you’d still choose to go there.</p>
<p>Would you still want to go there if she got in, but didn’t want to room with you? Just because you are close friends doesn’t mean that you’d be happy being roomies for 4 years. Lots of close friends aren’t able to get along as roommates. Also, it’s possible that the new friends you’ll both make in school may become even closer friends than you and your friend now are. Your parents’ experience was different, but that doesn’t mean that you’ll follow in your parents footsteps. </p>
<p>You and your current best friend may grow apart in college and take different paths even if you’re at the same school. Many people change a great deal in college.</p>
<p>This is a very strange post. You don’t even go to the same HS as your friend, so how would you know what it would be like going to the same school as her? You would only go to a school because someone is going to be there? This doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship. How would you feel if you were to go to “the school” and she decides to make new friends and has very little to do with you? Or are you more worried that your family couldn’t be friends any more if you were to go to “the school” and she doesn’t? Maybe you should talk to your parents about this.</p>
<p>^ I agree…don’t make your decision based on your friend.</p>
<p>I would not mention that you will not attend if she does not get in. Seems almost like a threat. If this is the public LAC in southern Maryland is your friend sure it is a good fit for her academically?</p>
<p>Is this st. mary’s college by the way?</p>
<p>yes it is st marys college
and sorry if i sounded so clingy about her and whatever. i guess i’m just having trouble trying to explain the situation becuase i know i’ve already contradicted myself a couple of times.</p>
<p>basically i haven’t found a school that feels perfect for me yet. st marys is the closest i’ve gotten but it’s followed closely by a bunch of other schools. allie has dreamed of going to st marys her entire life. honestly i think that is part of what draws me to st marys, is that allie will be there. we have been friends like i said since we were born. we live together all summer at the beach and every weekend in st marys. at the same time, we have other friends that we bring along and we’re not inseparable or anything. if we were to go to college together and not even end up rooming together thats fine although it probably would never happen. i guess what i’m trying to say is that if i were to make a list of pros and cons for colleges they would all be pretty close but having allie and both of our families and vacation houses right there sounds very nice to me and would probably boost smcm up there a lot. now if allie didn’t get in that same allure wouldn’t be there and all the schools would be the same to me i guess so i probably would not end up at st marys.
hopefully that makes more sense, although probably not…sorry hahah im not like psycho dependant or attached to her or anything dont worry.</p>
<p>I think that the OP is correct, under the circumstances I think it would be painful for her to go to this college if Allie were rejected.</p>
<p>hah finally someone sees where i’m coming from! thanks adad</p>
<p>No problem! :)</p>
<p>I completely understand where you’re coming from. I’m in a similar situation, actually. For some reason, (and this really boggles me) people don’t seem to understand that your best friend going to school with you is not your only reason for choosing that school, it’s just a very compelling reason (especially if they’re all equally appealing in the other areas).</p>
<p>You could suggest to her to have an English teacher look at the essay? Or her guidance counselor? Or you could gently tell her that you don’t think it’s the best best piece of writing, and offer to help her fix it.</p>
<p>Hope it all works out.</p>