<p>I’m currently in a long distance relationship. Recently, I found myself thinking about a friend whom I have been hanging out with. I’m trying to stop myself from falling even deeper for him. Anyone got any advice? I’m already trying to ignore and distant myself from him. Yet, every time he calls or when I see him, my heart drops. I feel especially guilty for my boyfriend. I really want our long distance relationship to work…</p>
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<p>If you REALLY want your long distance relationship to work, then cut off ALL contact with this other guy you think you’re falling for… if you keep spending time with this other guy and thinking about him as more than a friend, you and your boyfriend will never have a chance.</p>
<p>Ask your boyfriend if it’s ok for another guy to be in your life too.</p>
<p>its obvious you like the new guy more. relationships with doubt never work.</p>
<p>I like the new guy but i know my bf is better in every way. The new guy loves partying and he doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship right now so…I know I have to forget about him. It’s just really difficult. And he’s a great friend, also very intelligent.
sigh
i feel like a ho</p>
<p>Agreed with ckings86; cut off contact with other guys you think you will fall for. You already said he’s not committed to a relationship and he’s probably not your type in the long run, and that your bf is better in every way.I have some</p>
<p>I’d say ignore the guy and keep a distance away, it just hurts the security between you and your bf.</p>
<p>I kind of doubt though that your long distance relationship would work out, since your heart seems to be floating around at times …just to be honest.</p>
<p>This is like reality TV like when that one blonde girl from America’s Next Top Model hooks up with the European guy and she calls her boyfriend to tell him the truth and she apologizes and he cries and stuff. Or like in I Love Money where Hoopz sleeps in the same bed as Real and Whiteboy, but she has a boyfriend back home. Yeah, well in conclusion, your relationship won’t last.</p>
<p>lol …reality tv show huh?
ahhh im so stupid. i should just concentrate on school. Forget all this bs</p>
<p>Chances are you don’t know the new guy as well and your instinct is to keep it strong with your boyfriend. How do you know the new guy isn’t you way with dealing with the distance? Your first inclination is to stay with your boyfriend - keep it that way and know yourself.</p>
<p>what’s up with these relationship threads? well, at least you have something to do qipao (or emm) and pink. i think i’ll still say emm, it;s easier.</p>
<p>what are you talking about? that me and pink have threads where we give love advice?</p>
<p>fisico - are you having woman (or man) problems? i wants to know thanks! </p>
<p>damn it im just going to make a love advice thread.</p>
<p>you are emotionally cheating. whether you would like to think of it that way or not. emotionally cheating is worse than physically cheating in my opinion and you have to tell your boyfriend right away. just imagine if he was doing the same to you… its something he needs to know. if you are having feelings for another guy, thats ok. but you have to break it off with the first because this shouldnt be happening if you and your boyfriend are meant to be.</p>
<p>I beg to differ. Don’t tell your boyfriend about it unless it causes something physical to happen. To prevent that, just cut the other guy out of your life. I’m not sure if he’s close enough to you to warrant an explanation for your cold shoulder, but it doesn’t sound like it. </p>
<p>I also fell for a guy, but after a couple of weeks of no contact, I didn’t care about him anymore. Even though I did tell my boyfriend about it, I would have to say it’s not worth the risk of your boyfriend breaking up with you as long as you allow ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to happen.</p>
<p>thank you MrPink. I have a feeling that i might not give a crap about him in the future. coz i had a crush before and now i dont even have feelings to guys i used to like so…</p>
<p>haha well, it happens. Eventually if you really do love your boyfriend and continue hanging out with the guy the butterflies fade and you’ll realize that there was nothing really substantial with that friend in the first place. cutting off contact is the easiest solution, but time will tell whether you and your boyfriend are really meant for each other too.</p>
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<p>Exactly! I incurred a great risk by telling the boy that I had had a crush on someone totally unimportant to me know. The boy accepted it and told me that he was thankful I was honest, but I can tell it really hurt him. And it hurts him way more than it should seeing as I don’t even talk to the other guy any more, nor were we ever compatible in the first place.</p>
<p>Do cut off all contact. Don’t tell your boyfriend unless there are any other circumstances you didn’t reveal in your posts. That’s my advice :-</p>
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<p>yes i do have problems :(</p>
<p>Agreed with Pink. It’s completely unnecessary to tell your boyfriend about it unless you’re considering breaking up with him or taking any other action. When people are in relationships, of course their eyes wander - especially if there’s any uncertainty in the relationship (something you have with the bf). People are always searching for something else - they’ll notice if something or someone suits them better. It’s normal to have wandering eyes - your actions, however, are the difference. I say be patient with the new one, cut off contact with him for now if you must, keep associating with him at a minimum, and if you think pursuing him will yield more results or is more beneficial than your bf now, then go for it. It takes time, however, to come into any realization about that.</p>
<p>Fisico, post in the relationship thread. We want to hear about it.</p>
<p>Disagree with Pink. committed relationships are about sharing experience, feelings, thoughts. If you cannot do that, it is not a healthy relationship. If you call him later today (I assume you talk several times per week) –</p>
<p>“Hey (insert far away boyfriend’s name), how’s it going? Look, I’ve been meaning to tell you about how hard it is being away from you. I meet guys and it’s hard not to be attracted to them. How is it for you? Do you have the same thing going on?”</p>
<p>P.S. I don’t think distance relationships work unless you are already engaged.</p>