@musicmom I’m curious as to what he says. My 20s-something BIL was staying with us this weekend. He works at an alternative school in a pretty bad district. I brought this up to him and he was kind of horrified that a teacher would say something like that. They’re taught to keep very clear lines between themselves and students (which many of the students try to constantly cross with younger teachers- he even had a student who told him to break up with his fiance so that they could go out.)