Am I the only one who’s astonished at the level of parent involvement in the transition to college? When I left for college (3 hrs drive away), one parent drove me and my stuff, dropped me off, said good-bye, and left. That’s all I needed from them (plus of course their paying the bill, and the very generous by 1978 standards extra $100/month allowance to buy myself whatever I needed). I didn’t want them hanging around - I wanted to meet the other students, and go in a freshman floor pack to explore the campus and head to the dining hall together. From what I’m hearing, people are planning to drive two-car caravans from across the country with the entire family and tons of stuff, or ALL fly together, families of six, with two suitcases each filled with all Primo’s stuff, complete with hotel stays for everyone, to drop Primo off at college, as a multi-day event, including orientation sessions for the parents!
The icing on the cake is that I just found out that the college is inviting ‘letters of introduction’ from the parent(s) to the advisor, so that the advisor can get a head start on getting to know the student. The last time I wrote one of these was when my oldest went to nursery school for the first time, although I did fill out a form the first time each kid went to sleep-away camp. I would have been mortified, and outraged, had my parent written such a letter to my college - and it most certainly would never have occurred to them to do such a thing.
The parents seem to think that this is wonderful idea. I’m appalled. Even if my child were a Type I diabetic, or had a seizure disorder, I think that it’s up to my child to share that information. As for any other ‘getting to know my child’ info, isn’t that supposed to be up to my child? I mean, they’re the one who is going to college.
Am I being a dinosaur? Or do others think that this level of parent involvement is inappropriate?