Hi all! I need some input. We’ve hit a bit of an impasse in the college selection process.
My S25 basically has his list whittled down between two great options: Tulsa and Bama. I know this is a kind of weird pairing for a showdown, as UA is 10 times the size of Tulsa, but here we are.
To give you an idea of who S25 is: he’s planning on majoring in biochem with an eye on pre-med. He’s mostly an introvert, I’d say, but he has a great group of friends and they get together for things like game nights, grabbing food, and just hanging out. He’s a quick recall and band kid, and he recently joined his school’s volleyball team and likes to hike and work out. He’s interested in travel and study abroad opportunities—and not interested in Greek life.
Alabama: For a long time, we thought Alabama would be a great fit for him. We had a wonderful visit last year—the campus was beautiful, chem building was gorgeous, dorms looked great, everyone was super welcoming, etc. S25 couldn’t think of anything bad to say about it (except that he didn’t love that it was in Alabama…he originally had it in his mind that he would go north, not south, for college). But he still came home saying he probably wouldn’t go there—an anthem he repeated for the next several months.
Tulsa
Despite always wanting a big school, S25 decided to check out UTulsa during Tulsa Time weekend. He loved it. He came home raving about how he might like a small school after all—so much personal attention. He liked how manageable everything felt, made a small group of friends, thought the campus was beautiful, liked that they have on-campus apartments for sophomores and up, and liked how easy it is to get involved with research and make personal connections with profs.
On Monday, he said he was going to enroll at Tulsa. Cue the confetti! But then, on Tuesday, we got a letter that he made it into the McCollough Pre-Medical Scholars program. And now, he’s second guessing everything.
He likes the fact that Alabama’s size means lots of resources, but that being part of a smaller cohort with an LLC component (housed in one of the Honors Dorms) will make the university feel smaller. He thinks the interdisciplinary pre-med minor sounds really cool and he likes the support and guidance he’ll get as part of the program, which currently has a 100% med school acceptance rate. One of his best friends committed to Alabama this week, and he’s excited that he would have someone to share the drive with on breaks. He likes going to sports games and thinks the football and basketball games would be a blast.
I’m having trouble steering him on this one. I can honestly see him thriving in either environment—they’ll just be totally different experiences.
Any insights you all could offer would be much appreciated!