<p>I’m an elementary ed major, so you can only imagine the female:male ratio. Therefore I have a lot to say about this topic.</p>
<p>It seems to matter more to who the girl is in terms of personality. I seem to make friends with intelligent athletic girls very quickly–probably because I’m an athletic guy with a decent brain. The girls I befriend also tend to be Republicans about 80% of the time, usually are younger than me by a year or two or three, and dress the same way I do (Abercrombie & Fitch). Usually they are apathetic to some degree about relationships.</p>
<p>When I was in high school, I had many of the above stated girls to hang out with. I found it easy to sit down and hold a conversation forever with one of them, often easier than one of my best guy friends. In college, these girls are almost nonexistent. My closest female friends are still the ones from high school. (So are the guys though)</p>
<p>As far as guys go–I find them extremely easy to talk to because of one thing–sports. I’ve met so many guys by merely bringing up some sort of sporting event. This is why, like most all guys, I have more guy friends than girl friends. A lot of our common bonds are in the gym, from a team, etc. With my guy friends, it seems like politics and whatnot don’t even come into play–I have plenty of liberal male friends to go with a bunch of conservatives. Neither do standards as much–I look for high morals in girls but with guys, it doesn’t seem to matter. Take my workout buddy for example. I don’t curse much (unless I’m really angry), go to church all the time, and am a firm believer in abstinence. This guy needs a seven second delay button to edit his everyday conversations and let’s just say he’s not a squeaky clean angel. Nonetheless we’re good buddies. Had that been a girl we wouldn’t even be speaking to each other.</p>
<p>Ucbhi–the whole sexuality thing, when putting that into the context of people being attracted to each other, does exist with every opposite sex friendship to a degree. A case in point–this one girl and I have been good friends for years but before we met each other my friend told me she had a huge crush on me. He even got a note from her to support this claim. In fact, the first time he saw us hanging out he wondered if I had finally figured it out or something. I was actually introduced to her by another buddy who asked her out and dated her for a week. I’m wondering if I had something to do with the split since it happened like two days after I spotted them/hung out with them at a fast food joint. Anyway, we are FRIENDS yet there is some degree of attraction that I can feel since she often makes a lot more compliments about my appearance than she does to other guys. I must admit though that there are some girls I will compliment much more than others, leading one of my buddies to believe that I was going to ask one of them out once.</p>
<p>The girl in question here is almost a clone of me. Our birthdates are within five days of each other (though I’m a few years older), we have almost identical strengths and weaknesses in the classroom, both have the same preferences as far as sports go, are both talented musicians, we both dress in A&F a lot, are almost the same height, both love to talk, have the exact same personality quirks, share the same “odd trait” (remembering exact statistics), and–get this–both had identical sophomore years in terms of performance–we both struggled mightly, especially in chem, during the first semester and then had incredible second semesters to bring up our grades. Social lives are astonishingly similar as well–neither of us really do the whole relationship thing in high school, both have a ton of friends yet don’t really party, and have one best friend who we spend a ton of time with despite having a lot of friends. Both of our best friends were not students at our school. We also both PANIC A TON about EVERYTHING, especially grades, and both of us like to get help from teachers and are frequently cited as teacher’s pets. About the only differences here are that I am older and a guy and she is more prone to illness and injury than me, plus she isn’t into computers like I am. Our music tastes are also a little different as are the instruments we played in band. When I met this girl, we started talking and never stopped.</p>
<p>If all girls were like this one I too would agree that girls are easier to make friends with than guys.</p>
<p>All of this would be an interesting case study for a psych course/paper. I may take a few more psych classes to get a minor in it, anyone else think I could use this for some sort of project?</p>