Thanks. More than likely we won’t even get a third roommate anyway, so we won’t do it. We also can’t start lookin fr places until a month or so before we’d plan to move in, but we’ll see.
Everyone is different. Are you the first in your family to go to college? As a Mom, I know my feelings were strongly influenced by my own experience at a college where almost everyone lived on campus and socialized on campus. I really enjoyed being on campus with my friends, and wanted that for our our daughter. My parents offered to help me move off campus my senior year as my siblings did, and I didn’t want to. My reasoning was that I only had four years where someone else would cook and clean for me, and my friends were all here. We really encouraged that with our DD1, and I was disappointed that she chose an urban school where most of her fun was off campus in the community. We quickly realized it was perfect for HER. Now DD2 is going to a more insular college, and I am realizing that some of the negatives of my insular school (Specifically more drinking) might have a negative impact on her. My oldest did far, far less drinking than I did because she wasn’t 21,and was in the community instead of making fun in the dorms. One of my close College friends sent her daughter to our same college, and expected her to have the same type of insular experience. She moved off campus in Jan of her freshman year and happily completed her four years there. We parents can sometimes be slow to grasp that what is right for us, or right for “many” is not right for you. You are happy, you have friends, you love your family. I think you should stay on campus when you want to, and go home when you want to. It’s not about “normal”… it’s about what you prefer. If you are happy and doing well in school, perhaps being home more often is a great solution! Then again, sometimes things change over time… every year was certainly different for me in college.
I am not the first in my family, and my dad’s family mostly went far away to school and only came home for holidays, and my mom’s family mostly commuted, many of them the same distance I would be if I did it.