We did the exact opposite with our daughter and it wasn’t the best decision. We told her that we wanted her to have ultimate authority of where she wanted go to school. She ended up applying to 14 schools (way too many schools) and became overwhelmed with the decision making process. She ended up choosing a school on the other side of the country that was way too expensive for us to afford. She is now transferring to a school closer to home. Looking back on it, we should have been more involved in the decision process and set better guidelines for her. Had we gave her more input on our experiences and asked her more involved questions, she might have decided on the right school.
In other words, we didn’t show that we cared, so she didn’t either. We didn’t stress how different schools can be from one another.