I admit that I too spend a lot of time getting information concerning college for my D2. Our D seems mostly uninterested in the subject. I have come to the conclusion it isn’t that she is uninterested, she is merely busy and focused on what she is doing now ie. classes, dance, friends, etc. We started with her sophomore year making her attend the college and career fair. All we really knew was what subjects she liked and that she didn’t want to be a doctor and we wanted to her to begin thinking about possible directions. We visited a couple of colleges during vacations the summer before her junior year. It wasn’t something she wanted to do but we were together so she didn’t really have a choice. I didn’t care whether she was interested in specific school or not, I was mainly curious to see what size and style of campus she liked (city, rural, etc.) Junior year I gave her the task of picking some in state colleges to visit and gave her the “money talk”. Late junior year we took a college spring break college tour trip (I made her set them up). By then she had started to formulate a plan of study (it changed a bit on the trip) and we had a better idea of her stats and what schools would be good for her to consider. She has been respectful although not enthusiastic. I would get the information on a variety of schools that might interest her, she would choose the ones she was willing to visit. I think when I’m not looking she has gotten on the websites herself but I haven’t actually caught her at it. Every now and then she and her friends will begin discussing colleges and the eavesdropper in me learns more from those conversation than asking her directly:).
It looks to me that the OP really wants to do is help her D and they don’t feel like she is giving them much to work with. I really think that parents can give direction and information without making the decisions. I really do think that their D will begin to come around especially as it gets closer and her friends begin to discuss their futures.