<p>I am asking sincerely, not in a sarcastic way. Every time I hear of a new scandal (Arnold and Maria being the latest) I wonder about this. Is monogamy just impossible for some people?
If so, why get married, pledge to forsake all others and bring children into a family if you don't really mean or can't fulfill your vow?</p>
<p>Fourteen years ago my spouse had an affair. Even though we reconciled and have moved on with our lives, I think there is a part of me that will never get over what happened. No one knows (except our marriage counselors) and my children have no idea. I deeply love my spouse and am grateful for all the hard work we both have done to reconcile and forgive.
I am married to an amazing person. But my heart will always have a hole I can't heal. I've prayed and prayed to be able to completely release this pain, but it never totally goes away.
And from what is in the news, I am sadly in good company.</p>