<p>just wanted to start an argument and see what people think.</p>
<p>At my school, girls for sure. It is so small and the guys are so… not into dating that the ones who care at all about having a date will have one right away and the rest couldn’t care less. On the other hand, EVERY girl wants a date, and that just doesn’t happen. I don’t even think people randomly ask people romantically, but you’re either A) already in a relationship or B) just going as friends.</p>
<p>As a girl, I JUST WANT A PROM DATE.</p>
<p>there is no way you can make a case that prom is harder for the girls haha the guy has to ask so that makes it inherently more difficult for the guys</p>
<p>Imagine being in a class of 76 kids, let’s say 38 girls and 38 guys. Only one or two girls get asked out. Think about how that would feel.</p>
<p>Girls! Prom dress, hair, makeup, actually getting a date. I’m 99% sure that I won’t have a prom date. But I’d rather have no date than the wrong date, who annoys me all night and tries to kiss me when I don’t want him to. </p>
<p><em>sigh</em> but all my friends will have dates and I’ll be the awkward one out.</p>
<p>@ coffeeandtea, yeah that kind of sucks honestly now that i think about it. my school is a big school (around 1000 kids) so basically most girls get asked out, but still girls don’t have to deal with the possibility of rejection, so it’s easier for the guys.</p>
<p>Well I’m a guy, and I’m yet to actually ask a girl to prom. Or for that matter any dance. Last years prom a girl asked me(strange I know) but she was hot and we were friends anyways so it worked. Then this year all we’ve had was a winter formal, where again I was asked by a girl.(different girl then prom yet still hot). But this year I plan to ask a girl and I know that’s usually difficult for guys. Sometimes I have trouble asking girls on dates, let alone a major event. Plus guys pretty much front the bill for everything, so its quite financially straining. I’m going to go with guys on this one. Much harder for them. All the girls have to do is just look good</p>
<p>"At my school, girls for sure. It is so small and the guys are so… not into dating that the ones who care at all about having a date will have one right away and the rest couldn’t care less. On the other hand, EVERY girl wants a date, and that just doesn’t happen. I don’t even think people randomly ask people romantically, but you’re either A) already in a relationship or B) just going as friends.</p>
<p>As a girl, I JUST WANT A PROM DATE."</p>
<p>THIS. this is exactly the situation in NorCal too. this is the situation in california. this this this this, jesus this. i have nothing more to add except that it is very hard to have the TV-show quality prom experience if you’re not hella popular. and even then, it’s not guaranteed.</p>
<p>@manders93 i would say that i know that feel but i’ve never gotten even remotely close in the 50-mile radius of getting a date so no i don’t know that feel.</p>
<p>I think girls make it harder on themselves Most girls are borderline obsessed with creating a “perfect” night They want the right guy to ask but won’t ask him They want just the right group the right dress the right shoes the right hair the right EVERYTHING</p>
<p>Girls (at my school anyways) sometimes care a little too much and make it hard on themselves when they don’t have an ideal date or their group has drama or whatever Most guys I know frankly don’t care They ask a girl (guys asking girls at my school seems to be a low-key low-drama thing that nearly every guys does) and then rent a tux and show up for pictures where their date says to</p>
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<li>at my school people hardly date at all outside of dances. I can’t wait to go to college to be not-so-forever-alone.</li>
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<p>And here popularity doesn’t matter at all. It’s just getting lucky that the one or two guys who actually care enough to ask someone out ask you. I’m trying to will this one guy to ask me.</p>
<p>I’ll be drunk my whole prom anyway so I won’t notice I’m alone (classy right?). </p>
<p>I agree with the post above that says that girls want everything to be perfect. Most of us have an imagine in our heads and high expectations of how prom should be. Can you blame us? Movies have painted this perfect picture in our heads since we were little.</p>
<p>It’s easy when you’re in a relationship :)</p>
<p>I don’t even care about it being perfect, or even prom itself. I just want someone to ask me out. Like, really though boys in my grade? Where are the sex-crazed maniacs that everyone talks about? Not that I want that, but this seems like the complete opposite of the norm!</p>
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<p>We have to pass a breathalyzer test to get in :(</p>
<p>I think its tougher on guys, but I have an obvious bias. I’ve been asked to dances in the past, and that’s soo easy, you just reply, “sure, I’ll go with you. It’s gonna be fun!” when asked. But dealing with the possibility of rejection and asking is a whole different game. Unless you are the most popular guy in school, girls always think they can do better than you by moving up the food chain. That’s why even if you’re a decent guy and you ask a girl, they might think they can do better and reject you. This is true for when girls ask guys too, I think it’s always harder on whoever’s asking.</p>
<p>It’s harder for the party that likes the other person more. In terms of perceived value, the person dating up will always be the one trying to impress. The other individual, knowing that he/she is settling, has higher dating market value and thus needs not to worry.</p>
<p>In terms of market value though, that depends on gender: looks is the currency that girls trade on, while status/power is the deal for guys. I know there will be raging feminists and dissenters who will scoff at this, but don’t kid yourselves…</p>
<p>At my school it’s so much easier for guys. All guys have a guaranteed date basically because it is an unofficial rule that girls don’t say no to anyone that asks them. In my opinion, this rule yields a lot of awkward date couples, but whatever. So guys virtually never have to face rejection.</p>
<p>However, at other schools it’s probably harder for the guy.</p>
<p>^epic post by heartist</p>
<p>Heartist’s post has now helped me make sense of my junior year.</p>
<p>At my school it’s the girls who have it harder. All of the guys have dates whether they’re freshman, sophomores, from our grade, older, or from another town. I have never seen a guy go to prom at my school without a date. At my school there is also a lot of pressure on girls to go to prom with a date, so there’s normally only a couple girls that go dateless. I go to a school with approx. 200 kids per class. The girls have to buy their dresses (always long, never short), get their hair done, get their makeup done (i prefer to do my own but I know a lot of girls get theirs done), buy shoes, get manicures and pedicures (I don’t understand why they don’t just do this themselves), go tanning (we live in the Northeast and quite honestly sometimes our skin is so pale that some girls would get washed out or look funny in their dress no matter what color it is), and get a corsage. Yeah, a guy has to get a tux (which is picked out by his mom/sister/girlfriend/date) but it doesn’t cost more than $150 because it’s only rented. It’s a much less expensive process. We don’t worry too much about ticket prices because we do A TON of fundraising for proms at our school (my class has raised over $60,000 since freshman year), so our tickets are basically $1. Girls take all day to get ready. We treat the prom as if it is a red carpet event. It’s my town’s most emphasized and talked about event. Although my school is small and there’s only about 200 kids that are probably going to prom, about 700 people actually show up at the park two hours beforehand to take pictures. It’s a process.</p>
<p>I think to some extent it’s more socially acceptable (at least at my school) to go dateless as a girl than to go dateless as a guy. Last year at junior prom, my dateless self and my dateless best friend sat at a table with about 1 guy and 9 girls, and no one really felt all that self-conscious about it.</p>
<p>And to everyone who’s saying that the boys have to do the asking - some of you girls should just go for it. I asked my boyfriend out first and so far that’s working out quite nicely. :)</p>