<p>^ The way I pictured my proposal is:</p>
<ol>
<li>Tell the girl to meet me somewhere in school during a random block.</li>
<li>Ask a bunch of our friends to come and take pictures.</li>
<li>Give her flowers and chocolates and ask her to prom.</li>
<li>???</li>
<li>Profit</li>
</ol>
<p>Def. harder for guys because they have to go through the anxiety of planning out and asking someone to prom - the cause of so much worry.</p>
<p>Harder for the guys for sure.</p>
<p>1.) Guys must ask, and no one goes to prom alone. We have to be creative and funny but memorable and sweet.</p>
<p>2.) Guys MUST pay for the tickets. At my school that is $120 for both. This includes dinner and after prom but its still a ton.</p>
<p>3.)A tux rental costs another $120.</p>
<p>4.) A girl can find a dress she looks great in for under $100</p>
<p>Totals. Guys: ~$250+possible humiliation and emasculation Girls: could be >$100 is they didn’t have to be all flashy</p>
<p>Definitely girls. At my school, it’s kind of expected that everyone goes with a date, and girls have the added stress of possibly not being asked. Plus we also have to find a dress that no one else already has. Guys just need a tux, and they can ask anyone to prom instead of waiting. Not fairrr.</p>
<p>Although I can also see where a lot of you guys are coming from…rejection would be humiliating, and everyone’s school has different traditions for prom.</p>
<p>To all guys - finding the perfect dress is difficult. Prom = high school wedding. That’s a lame metaphor, but basically, most girls want THE dress and won’t settle for anything they “look great in.” We’ve got to look amazing!</p>
<p>I’d say it’s harder for the girl, but I’m biased since I am one. At my school though, rejection doesn’t seem too common, at least for prom, since girls have the pressure of needing/wanting a date. Guys get to pick! They also seem to work it out with each other and make sure they’re not stepping on their friends’ toes…so it’s just the asking that’s difficult, but at my school, the answer is usually a yes, so it just seems less of a challenge. :)</p>
<p>Girls <em>can</em> ask, but it’s kind of weird at my school when they do…so I’d say it’s more pressure on the girls since we never know if/when we will get asked or by who. And there’s always that idea of wanting the perfect date but maybe his best friend will ask you instead and you can’t really do anything about it, etc.</p>
<p>Fballer if you’re trying to say guys spend more money I gotta disagree</p>
<p>$100 for a dress is very cheap Unless you’re shopping at a thrift store most people are going to pay at least twice that (at least at my school) and it’s not unheard of to spend $400 or up on just a dress alone (I did last year and most of the ones I’m looking at this year are $350-$450) Granted I go to a fairly affluent school where there’s definitely pressure to have a gorgeous (and consequently pricey) dress </p>
<p>Then there’s shoes and a purse and jewelry and maybe hair stuff That could be $50 to $100 </p>
<p>Then lots of girls (at least girls at my school) have hair appointments and nail appointments and makeup appointments Obviously cost depends on where you go but most people spend between $75 and $100 on that stuff</p>
<p>I’m sure things could be different for people at other schools but at my school where tickets are free and all guys pay for is a tux and dinner (which I’m sure is not cheap) girls end up spending far more money</p>
<p>I think it’s a lot harder for the girls. We have to find the perfect dress that no one else will have, find nice shoes and jewelry, find a good hairstyle, set up the dance (for those of us on prom committee), and hope to get a date.</p>
<p>I think all my friends, even the one who’s coming back home from prep school to go with us, has a date. Me? Nope. I didn’t really care until I found out everyone else had one. It’s more the feeling of being the pathetic loner in the group of couples. I don’t want to be the wayward female at the end of the line of couples in pictures. Of course, the prospects look grim. Most guys at my school are either a)not into prom, b)taken, c)******bags, or d)creepers. I’m expecting some guys from group d to be asking me…not looking forward to it.</p>
<p>@iluvbooks</p>
<p>How would you go about rejection someone from group d if someone asked you? What if they bought a mulititude of lavish gifts?</p>
<p>@manders93</p>
<p>I know plenty of girls that got beautiful dresses for under, or hardly over $100, it’s just about being smart about it. Heck, girls could borrow a dress from an older cousin, or friend that is around their size. I’m sure it’s fun to go out dress shopping, but I’ll play along and say your dress is $200, we will throw in another $50 for hair and nails (which is doable if you are smart about it. That totals $250, around the same as a guy would spend. So cash wise i would say even. I would argue (from personal experience) that it is harder on the guys because they have to ask and girls get to sit around and wait.</p>
<p>Girls MAKE it harder on themselves. Guys don’t willingly spend that kind of money hahah.</p>
<p>But you can also argue that it’s nervewracking just sitting around in a puddle, waiting for that perfect guy to ask, then being confused if another guy asks or no one asks you. Think about that.</p>
<p>We don’t have prom at my high school.</p>
<p>It’s super stressful when all of your friends have dates and you don’t. Especially senior year–it’s senior prom and everyone wants to be able to say they went.
And if a creeper asked me, I would politely reject him. I know it’s hard to get rejected, but what is a girl supposed to do if she has never even talked to the guy and would rather not spend so much money for a night that’s awkward?</p>
<p>@Fat_Nerd, do you have an equivalent event?</p>
<p>When are your proms? Ours is in April…and already it’s getting nervewracking, I think. xD</p>
<p>Omg, April is soo soon! Ours is may 12th, and seniors last day is may 11th.</p>
<p>Ours is late May.</p>
<p>Why is it “hard” to not do anything…? Anyway, like I said, no attractive guy is going to have trouble asking out a girl to go with him and no decently attractive girl is not going to get asked. </p>
<p>Prom’s only hard if you’re ugly.</p>
<p>@Wiscongene: Yep. I can attest to that. Thrown in being weird and socially awkward and you have me: the perfect prom date! Haha, at least I have friends.</p>
<p>In general, I think guys who complain that they have to do all the asking are perhaps incorrect. Yes, it takes gut to ask and risk rejection, but (most) girls don’t get to choose. Unless the girl asks, which, props to her, is a rare occasion.</p>
<p>As for prom itself, girls do spend more time/effort, but not necessarily money. Girls get their (hopefully not god-awful) dress, do their hair/face, etc. Then comes the question of who pays for the ticket, the ride, dinner, and the list goes on. At my school, usually the guy pays for it, which I don’t completely agree with (I’m a girl). I think if both the girl and the guy are attending their own prom, the guy doesn’t really need to pay; however, for example, if a guy invites a girl from a different school or an underclassman, he has a stronger obligation to pay.</p>
<p>As for myself, I’m still on the fence if I should let my bf pay. (We’re both seniors at the same HS.)</p>
<p>Definitely girls. How would you feel, boys, if your romantic outlook depended on whoever asks you out? Also, while girls feel even more pressure to have a date by prom night these days, boys are caring less and less about traditionally asking a girl to prom. </p>
<p>It’d be so easy being a boy. I could ask out anyone, and since I know what girls feel like, I could charm them with no trouble!</p>