<p>Good for her! I’m glad for both of you, and I hope she finds much more than she expects to at school. Thank you for updating and please keep us posted.</p>
<p>Yay! So glad what the OL said really reasonated with her. The right words at the right time. Attitude IS everything. Sounds like she’s on better footing.</p>
<p>Good things about financial safeties–it leaves some money left over for perks like study abroad and internships (housing etc) outside your state.
I really think the honors college will make a difference to your D. Good luck to her!</p>
<p>Thanks ya’ll. It made a difference that the OL was speaking from her personal experience - she too was not happy about attending this college and told her group she spent the first semester wallowing and miserable. Then her Mom discussed the bloom where planted advice and how attitude makes a difference - and apparently it DID make a huge difference for the OL, as she is very happy with this college now (she’s a rising
3rd year). </p>
<p>The study abroad programs are definitely affordable since DD stayed in state, and those are a huge draw to her. She is starting out as an international affairs major, and has added a second foreign language to her course selection, so she should have plenty of opportunity to take advantage of the study abroad programs.</p>
<p>Well, for somewhat who really wants to go abroad, especially for a year, a school one is not in love with is an advantage. It sounds like I’m kidding, but not entirely. My D loved her school, but it had social limitations. She went abroad. My S went to college expecting to go abroad since his school was very rural with few off-campus opportunities, but he loved being there so much, he refused to budge. And now the IS behind in languages in graduate school, something he could have remedied by going abroad.</p>
<p>A year away is a long time, and a school that affords this opportunity may actually be just perfect for your D.</p>
<p>Why would anybody choose the school where they would be miserable? And why they stick to this decision instead of transferring? It is way too much to purposely decide to be meserble for 4 most important years, I am missing something big here.</p>
<p>I cannot comment more than that. My kid absolutely made sure that her UG as well as Med. School fits her as good as possible. We have supported her in that lots and lots as transition is stressful enough without feeling out of place. I am not critical, I just do not understand the whole situation at all. There are must be some very valid reasons…If so, then the only thing is to see what happens when she is there. Some never adjust, other will beautifully. What else can you do?</p>
<p>haniliy, I’ll bet your listening so honestly to your daughter, and your willingness to support her feelings and options has made a big difference in the kind of person she is. Her constructive attitude now seems to indicate she has a good basic foundation for future life. Kudos to you as a parent.</p>
<p>I wish the very best to you and your daughter. By the way, you may be missing out on the joys of your D beginning a college career. However, if I had to choose between having a great beginning or a great end, I’d choose the happy graduation any day. Whether it’s this school or a transfer school, I’ll bet your daughter, with her constructive outlook on life (notice I didn’t say optimistic, but constructive) will have a very happy graduation day.</p>
<p>Yay! Happy dance! She has learned her first big lesson at college already! Awesomeness. It’s always interesting to me how kids from instate pooh pooh their local U. and how kids from a few states over think it’s fabulous. It’ll be interesting to see her H.S. classmates’ reactions to their schools. Pretty quickly they’ll all learn that the rankings game is only one measure of how well they’ll like their schools. Kudos to you and I wish I could put a thumb’s up on hayden’s post.</p>
<p>That’s great news. A theme I heard often at college was, “It’s what you make it.” So true - but one has to be in the right frame of mind to take that on board. My kids roll their eyes when I say it.</p>