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<p>Yeah, I think they can understand. Whether they choose to adjust is another story. And I think most people just don’t want to really. But at the same time, it takes all kinds. Look, I’m basically a pushover by choice. I don’t mean it to sound bad, but I do let things go more easily perhaps than other people my age, when they don’t matter. I think part of it is realizing where to sort of just chill and not try to find issues with someone. </p>
<p>The world needs people who will stand up to the 1% that won’t work with a normal person, or else that 1% will go and take over the world unchecked. But, people like me are necessary because someone needs to be able to work with the 1% and bring some unity into whatever situation. And neither position is really better, I guess. All the crabs CAN’T be at the top…it just won’t happen. Now if someone said their son got kicked out every activity and the teachers call every night, then that would be some cause for concern in that this kid would not be applying any social reasoning to the situations that he’s in. But, if this is the one time thing, then while I agree he needs to avoid any kind of victim role, it’s not necessarily a reflection of poor interpersonal skills. </p>
<p>One thing that sort of bothers me is the characterization of “sucking up” when it’s not that in many cases, it’s people who have a different personality. I’ve so been that person with the out of control coach who’s being petty with everyone, and I wound up in the “favorite” role where he was talking to me about everyone, ignoring everyone, only working with me. I did nothing to bring this on except not be contrary and attempt to just make the best of the situation. But even though most of the team knew it was not my problem, it was his, it’s still hard not to harbor resentment and I get that, I guess, if you haven’t been there. But like I said, it takes all kinds, and without those “suck ups” then there wouldn’t be any debate team.</p>