Touching without permission was no more appropriate back then. Its more likely that many women hadn’t been empowered to find their voice.
That makes a lot of sense, @jym626.
My son and friend were invited to a quincianera at the most expensive private school in our area. I took the boys there and planned to read my book in the car, as not worth it to go home. The mother came to me in car and insisted I join the celebration. The family included many Indians, in full saris and jewelry, as well as beautifully dressed Latinos. I was dressed worse than the help. The girl performed traditional Indian dances. The food was best ever. It was a rare treat.
My son went along me to others, and they were truly wonderful events.
Marian, I hurt for you.
I think some parents did not save, some could not save enough, as it is just too much, and some saved and lost it all in 2008/9 (common in my area/industry).
I lost most of it in 2008. But I have been able to bounce back, took a better paying job just so I could do so. I am now starting to save for S2. It will take me about 3-4 years I suppose. But I only have to pay 1/2 tuition. Dad pays 1/2. I couldn’t do it alone…
I think people have no idea what goes on elsewhere. Whether the family lost the money in a downturn, or never really made enough, or just frittered it away. I hate when kids say, my parents make $200+ so I know they can afford it…". In Idaho or Ohio maybe. In NY or CA, very doubtful.
@marian Were your parents raised during the Depression? Mine were. I think it affected the way they thought kids should be (asking for things, etc), since Depression kids really knew better than to ask for stuff.
How old were you when your parents divorced? supporting two households is expensive and may have also influenced their thinking of “don’t ask for things.”
Let me guess, your sister is your younger sister.