<p>No jym, she has to live by their rules or is free to live elsewhere. Their rules are help with the family business-even though it is illegal. She had been helping off and on since she was 13 but now they would like her to take a more active role. Truthfully, I think the mother would just like to get rid of her. They have a complicated relationship. this is a family that won’t buy health insurance but insists that she have the newest handbags and has the trendiest clothes. Her own mother told me that she was disappointed that gf isn’t prettier and thinner (she is actually a gorgeous young woman and not overweight).</p>
<p>I understand, mizzbee. But if you arent’ supposed to know that they are engaging in illegal activity, you are jsut supposet to assume that in generalities she wont “live by their rules”?</p>
<p>Yes, I am supposed to believe that because she is dating my S (who is an atheist) she is disappointing them. Never mind the fact that they are allowing her to move in with the same atheist! I don’t understand how this is going to help them save face but they seem to think that it is better to make gf look like an unruly teenager. She is, however a model student, active in community service, great grades adn involved in tons of ECs so it is hard to paint her as the rebel child.</p>
<p>It would help to know what kind of illegal activity the family is in? Are we talking something benign like being an unlicensed contractor or are we talking drugs or smuggling or prostitution? If its drugs, smuggling, prostitution, etc. you could be bringing violence to your doorstep. You would also not be doing this girl or the rest of your community any favors by turning a blind eye.</p>
<p>We had D’s BF live with us last year when his adoptive parents kicked him out on his 18th Bday. Yes my D is younger…no she is not sexually active! Honestly for the most part it went well, until he moved out and into the college dorms. Since school started he has made some very bad choices, which resulted in a Nov break up, and he will likely be homeless in June. It makes me very sad, this young man has a lot of potential. I will say that we know at least two other kids who come from solid homes and who were outstanding students who went off to college this year and did not survive the yr.</p>
<p>For us there were not too many issues because he was 18, he remained on his parents insurance and was able to get food stamps to contribute to our household. We paid for Clothes, vacations, prom, and graduation etc. He was automatically considered an independent student because he was in the foster care system past 13. The only difficult part I would say is that I think that D may have broken up with him sooner if he was not under our roof but no guarantees.</p>
<p>Having an 18 year old (or older) move in with you is VERY different than having a 15 year old.</p>
<p>I’m sorry…this family is doing some “illegal activity”. They want to paint their kid as a rebel child. They are sending her to a school that is NOT the one she would attend based on their residence (dishonest…and should be paying tuition). They are willing to pay you to have her in your home…or so they say. And the girl is 15.</p>
<p>This has RED FLAG written all over it. There are too many issues here. Please, help her find the resources that she needs…that is the right thing to do. Having her as a resident of your home is not sounding like a good plan to me.</p>
<p>thumper–I understand your concerns, but school boundaries are not a huge issue. Mizzbee’s state changed the law ~2-3 years ago and students aren’t bound by their district boundaries. Some paperwork needs completed, they are supposed to be in attendance by the “student count day”, and transportation isn’t provided. In those circumstances, tuition is not charged.</p>
<p>“Tuition”? For a public school? Even if you’re out of district, I’ve never heard of that. Must be a state-specific thing.</p>
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<p>A little off topic…but yes. If you wish to attend a school that is NOT where you reside in my state (and the other six in which I’ve worked and lived), you can ask to be a tuition student…and pay tuition. </p>
<p>The family of this young lady neglected to do the proper paperwork, or so it seems. Another red flag of irresponsibility. I know the kid should not be punished for her parents issues…but really I would steer clear of this situation other than to help this young lady find the resources she needs to move forward with her life.</p>