<p>I think someone older wrote in to Ann Landers or one of those columns in the last 6 mos…a mom who was unhappy with the lack of support she and her hubby and others in the family gave to her son when he came out… fast forward about 40 years…and she was writing to say that her gay son and partner were the first to open their home to her after her hubby died … and how wonderful they were to her…the trips they had taken… and how blessed she was to have a gay son… his caring and zest for life was enriching her own life. </p>
<p>sooo, thinking about how you have expressed a concern about your sexuality and other things…what I am hearing in your voice is that you don’t want to have to live up to the expectations of others. Try not to take on that burden and just continue to work at learning who you are… and know that there are many many places in this grand old country where who you are matters SOOO much MORE than who you love or lust after.</p>