Well. A day and a half after I texted my polite denial of the big party at our house, and the fiancé didn’t even bother to respond, not a thumbs up, I understand, bummer, nothing.
So now I don’t feel the slightest bit guilty.
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I think it also shows you how helpful he would have been had you decided to throw the party.
You made the correct choice
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Gee, the fiancee sounds like quite the stand up guy—not! So glad you didn’t take on the responsibility of hosting the ingrate!
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busdriver11 - My son still has not returned a text from last week - I assume he saw it but not certain. (Worry not about me for Mother’s Day - daughter has arranged for a family zoom call.). Hopefully the finance saw the “no party” text message, but maybe not. If you dare, perhaps send another text offering to contribute a cake (or other item).
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I’d just send a 2nd text to confirm NO PARTY and ask for new venue in case some stray guests didn’t get updated venus message.
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I’m not ready to throw the fiance under the bus. He may not be great with communication. My son is terrible at it. He’s not a bad person, bad at communicating, yes.
My point wasn’t a dig at the fiance but pointing out that he may not be the person who would be great at communicating and therefore following up and taking charge of a large gathering.
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I do like to give people the benefit of the doubt, and my kids don’t always communicate too well, either. I don’t expect people to respond quickly but thinking that if this has any importance to him, he should have followed up if I didn’t respond, and I doubt they’ve sent any invitations out yet, not knowing what I would say. I have enough on my plate to worry about, so I’ll let it go.
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I’d probably have other plans the night of the projected party so no one is home.
My kids are not great at communicating but if they ask for favors, they do acknowledge responses, at the very least with some emoji or something, especially when it involves plans, etc.
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Yeah. I’m pretty sure it’s not a missed text. We have my high school reunion that day, so we’ll be gone anyways. I’m certain that no one will just show up to my house.
I do hope they have a party somewhere anyways. There’s plenty of ways to book a party room at a restaurant or go to a park.
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Yes, we have had many gatherings at various places over the years. Lots of venues are very happy to have customers. Some have private rooms and some just give you a section of the restaurant. Enjoy your reunion!
Here’s hoping the fiancee is great guy and just bad at communicating, for the birthday girl’s sake!
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When topics like this come up, should you, regrettably, end up discussing details…people always say “I/my friends would not sue you if hurt” but need to be reminded, it would be the injured person’s health insurance company which could choose to sue, not the person.
My daughter got married at our house many years ago and the next summer her photographer’s daughter got married at our house. I finally gave away the wedding plates etc. and poof, my husband invited his sports buddies and spouses for a party. We ended up with 20+ so I got out my fine china (which I dislike anyway) from the basement 
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I actually couldn’t take the word of someone saying that unless I knew them well. Somebody you don’t know gets drunk, trips over their own two feet and you could have a lawsuit. I’m glad we put cones blocking the stairway.
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The medical insurers and providers are REQUIRING folks to fill out forms when getting medical treatment certifying they aren’t being treated for anything related to work, home or other injury. It is indeed the insurer that will file a suit, no matter that the injured party may prefer.
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This is a piece that aired today on CBS Sunday Morning. I am posting it here because in addition to facing this with our own parents, someday we may be the mom going through this. Retirement includes a lot of good things, but there are bittersweet times in our futures, as well. I found it to be a beautiful tribute to his mom and what she is going through. Josh's mom on making a move - CBS News
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Yeah, so much for giving the benefit of the doubt. My niece just told her mother that the other friend throwing the party is hosting it and has the perfect party house. Still no response from finance, so I’m calling three strikes (based upon other things), and I will continue to be polite but non involved, because I do love my dear niece.
On another note, we’re here in Spain on a Rick Steves tour, our seventh. I really enjoy traveling during retirement! I traveled constantly for work, but there was always that pressure of having to work when your layover time was over, and I do not miss that!
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Enjoy your trip! I don’t think we are opposed to a pic or two on this thread showing “life in retirement”! Whether that is a trip to Spain or your rocker on the front porch! 
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I just popped into the hot tub for half an hour but no pictures!
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Well, hope the fiancée improves for your niece. Sorry he seems to be falling short.
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Well, I always try to give the benefit of the doubt, and he is a very nice person. Hopefully it will all work out well.
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Sometimes people grow and improve. Maybe he will and be a good partner for your beloved niece. I’m sure she has good judgment v
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