We recognize that the relationships that our pup are in are important to them. DD brought a boyfriend to stay with us over part of a break, and I was proud of her asking if they could sleep in the same room (there are two twin beds there). Just in case we had any “moral objections” - she said he offered to take the couch downstairs but since the dogs go out early they might freak out and wake the rest of the house.
DH was silent, and I told her we trust her judgment, whatever they preferred. DD then pushed it a little further into the awkward territory, by asking if we wanted to borrow the headphones we gave her years ago, since the walls are paper thin. I told her just be quiet. I am not sure if DD was trying to make her BF or her dad more uncomfortable - but it worked for both of them.
“Normal” Conforming or adhering to a standard. Average. Typical.
Why is that so many people who are atypical get upset when confronted with that reality. It is not as if anyone said you were a bad person if you did not conform to social norms. I am happily abnormal in many ways.
So yes, I will continue to ‘throw around’ words like normal. Please feel free to not be offended when I correctly use the English language. Don’t take it personally. No offense was implied or expressed.
Returning to some earlier remarks.
It makes me sad that some folks don’t want their kids getting involved romantically while they are in school, that the kids should focus on their studies. Biologically, we are supposed to be looking for a mate. And heck, part of being a young person is romance! Meeting new people, wondering if he is The One, even meeting Not The One but having some amazing sexual chemistry. Yeah, it makes those years more complicated, but also so intense.
I try to remind myself what it was like to be young and in love when I see my kids with their GFs.
This is way back and I’m on mobile so I can’t quote but I’ll make one last remark:
Sex patterns today are pretty much identical to what they were in the 60s and every decade since among young people. Though there has been a slight decrease in the last 20 years.
So sure, some people might perceive now and the 60s as different but according to all available data, it’s not. At least as it pertains to what we do when we do 