<p>If anyone has any experience with residential treatment facilities that work with young adults with this disorder please let me know if you have been pleased with the facility. It is for a college age young adult. A location in the United States would be preferred. If there are any other recommendations for the treatment of this disorder that would be greatly appreciated.</p>
<p>If the person is over 18 they have to be willing to go. I’m sure you know that. Check out the site strugglingteens.com It is mainly aimed at teens, but the site owner is an excellent consultant and I’m sure could offer you some good leads. He is the class of the field.</p>
<p>Do you have a definitive DX on this? Have you spoken to the doc who made the DX?</p>
<p>DBT is the preferred method of therapy with BPD. Are you certain she needs a residential treatment facility? There is lots of info to be had on the TARA website and Valerie Porr’s book is very helpful in dealing with this disorder. Don’t know where you live but her TARA is headquartered in NY city. We are currently dealing with a potential BPD diagnosis for our daughter as well. She is about to start with a DBT therapy program but it is not residential. Hugs to you as I know how rough this is.</p>
<p>Thanks for the above info and the name of book and website. It is much appreciated.</p>
<p>Borderline Personality disorder is not easy to treat. Requires time and patience. Can be a bumpy ride.</p>
<p>Yes, and as a matter of fact the place where we are seeking help does not diagnose BPD until sometime into the mid twenties or so as brains and personalities are still forming. Our daughter is only 18 so they will not diagnose her as BPD until there is a more persistent and pervasive pattern of behavior.</p>
<p>As a nurse who has worked in a psychiatric setting, I do know bpd cannot be “cured” or even treated with medication that well. Best therapy is talk therapy. I would see this as a long process with a counselor and as an outpatient basis. However, if she is in acute distress or exhibiting suicidal behavior she needs to be somewhere. Does she have a psychiatrist that can admit her to psych. Unit. </p>
<p>I think what you are looking for is intense treatment for a short amount of time. That is fine but keep up with treatment afterward too. I wish you and your D the best. Personality disorders are difficult because unlike depression or bipolar, medication isn’t going to significantly improve their condition. She may have other coexisting illnesses on top of bpd. Either way, early intervention is always the best! And don’t give up, there is lots of help out there.</p>
<p>“I hate you, dont leave me” is another excellent book.</p>
<p>^ I know this sounds odd but the name of that book actually made me laugh. It is very fitting having heard those words so many times. </p>
<p>Could someone explain why it takes so long for a doctor to determine personality disorder as a diagnosis? After years of therapy and seeing multiple Doctors knowing that there was more going on …it has just been determined. Does it take X amount of crisis before the doctors will give this diagnosis? It seems a bit confusing to the lay person as to why this was not determined earlier when the same signs and behaviors were present.</p>
<p>BPD is not diagnosed until age 18 (will typically use ODD or mood disorder to explain the behavioral chaos of adolescence). But the pattern of behaviors is pretty evident, even before formal dx.</p>
<p>thankyou…I guess that makes sense.</p>
<p>Even 18 is early to DX with BPD. Doc’s are hesitant to do so since a lot of the behaviors can be developmental (for a short period), and so, maybe by 22 or 25, I’d consider it a “true” dx.</p>
<p>At the same time, there’s not one person who is harmed by DBT. It’s a good therapy even for healthy people with coping issues. </p>
<p>Good luck. BPD is a WMD on the life of the mother, in my experience.</p>
<p>My sister is a psychiatric RN, and she recommends this book for families of BPD patients.</p>
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<p>The DBT therapist will be therapist number four for us and our kid was diagnosed ODD years ago. Still not sure if BPD is even the correct diagnosis yet but she definitely needs work on her coping skills so I remain hopeful about the DBT program we’re doing. Hate to say it Momma-Three but I’ve followed many of the threads you’ve started regarding your daughter and her behavior always seemed so familiar to me. If she’s not willing to cooperate with the therapy I doubt it will help though as DBT apparently has lots of “homework”</p>
<p>^ Well after three years of going through all sorts of ups and downs we are still in hope of finding something that works. Things seemed to be going OK for a while until they just weren’t. That is the only way I can describe it other than my daughter has this thing with the months of May and June. I always attributed it with transitions ie…semester ending, friends back from school, brothers back from school and living in the house. Now it is more about her overall functioning. Daughter is not taking care of herself…not eating, showering, doesn’t seem to care about her appearance, not taking her meds, blew off school again, not brushing her teeth, all of the old behaviors but now the new behaviors seem to be predominant. She cries for help and we run to her and than she blows us off by not being there or not responding to calls. She does not seem to be managing living on her own. Does not do laundry evidenced by smelly clothing. These are all relatively new behaviors. She is also out to all hours with a constant assortment of new people both male and female.</p>
<p>Is also irresponsible with her meds…does not get prescriptions filled, forgets to take them than tells me that she needs a reminder. When asked if she wants to come home she says no. She is working several jobs…I don’t know how when she looks and smells the way she does. This is a physically beautiful girl who just seems to have given up and no longer looks like her old self. She is completely irrational when talking to us so how does she hold these jobs?</p>
<p>Some may remember that my daughter did this last year around my oldest sons graduation. She did it this year days before her two brothers were graduating. She ended up coming with us to the graduation this year but could not be reached for almost two weeks prior to us leaving. She disappeared right after the graduation and resurfaced once one of my sons left for over seas. She never said good bye to her brother. He had spent the night before looking for her and sadly left without a goodbye. It is all very sad.</p>
<p>At this point in time I would just like to see her get the right help. We are so tired of the yo-yo that we have been on and still no real progress because these episodes are still occurring.</p>
<p>I know others mentioned this earlier in the thread but I have the same thoughts…did you get this diagnosis from someone who is treating your D? I can’t tell if you suspect she has BPD or she was officially diagnosed. Then, if she was diagnosed, I think the best advice for treatment is going to come from the professionals who know her case and can advise you of the options. Also, since she is an adult, there is the issue, as already mentioned, of her willingness to be treated. I am sorry for your challenges with your daughter.</p>
<p>PS…one constant I have noticed in your posts over time is that your D seems quite responsible in her jobs and seems to function well in that part of her life. This would be something to bring up to a professional (which I surely am not) since it seems the issues arise in certain dynamics such as school and family relationships and not in some other facets of her life.</p>
<p>^ The doctor and therapist were thrown by this aspect of her life for a long time. She does very well in terms of holding jobs but blows other things off. She has a fear of being broke and that is probably what keeps the jobs going. The diagnosis is knew and still therapist has reservations as to a couple aspects of her behavior. The Dr seems to be sure.</p>
<p>Then while it helps to come to CC for support, I think the best advice on treatment and facilities would come from the doctor and/or therapist who know her case and the options that might be suitable. Are they suggesting inpatient treatment?</p>