This thread is beginning to confuse me. I am wondering if you could do a chance me thread so that everything is written out in an organized and concrete manner?
Following her dance passion and applying to med school a few years later seems like a reasonable plan.
I’m very confused on the major and level of dance - it sounds like she might be self taught and grading themselves vs. in something organized.
Is she planning on being a dance major?
I think there is almost no chance she can dance seriously AND ski with a team. I’m amazed she managed to do that in high school - most kids we know had to choose one or the other by 9th grade at the latest. She must have amazing organizational skills and very forgiving coaches/teachers. My D22 was dancing 5-6 days per week in high school and she still was behind a lot of kids who grew up in more urban areas and had had more opportunities. I think the idea of waiting until sophomore year and then auditioning for a student run dance group or two is a good one. Majoring or minoring in dance will require not just classes but being part of a company/performances, etc., with attendant rehearsals, etc. My kid choreographed as well, but as a dance minor she was also expected to perform in both fall and spring performances. While she could take a semester or two off (for example when she studied abroad) it was definitely expected (and a certain number of semesters required). Rehearsals are nights and weekends and you can’t miss many. She could in theory wait until sophomore year though to decide. Or decide she’d like to participate in dance in a lower key way - there are likely to be opportunities though ironically probably more at schools that don’t have as strong a dance major. Regardless the dance supplement will help her admission chances - regardless of what she decides to do when she actually gets there!
Thank you.
The combo was quite tough as a 9th grader in January and February, with close to 40 hours a week of extracurriculars(8-9 dance classes plus ski meets/practice/driving time, etc. ) and school from 7am (band/chorus) - 3pm release. Sophomore and Junior years were a bit less chaotic, but she still had comps in Boston and elsewhere along with ski practices/races.
She had to be organized because she goes to bed early. Thank goodness I still remember some high school math and could help back then. 
I am sorry about your student’s experience, but it sounds like you are saying that first gen students have a leg up and they certainly do not.
Our hospitals would be filled with residents and fellows who were First Gen if Parentologist’s observations were true across the board. And spend time at any hospital- and it will be clear that it is not. Med school costs alone mean that applicants from affluent families comprise a big chunk of the cohort. And yes, there are affluent families where neither parent attended college, but these are outliers.
Franklynn, thanks for your post. It is tough to square P’s comments with the number of med students and young docs who have one or both parents who are physicians!
I’ve been thinking about your imposter syndrome/confidence issue.
It can help to celebrate wins, not for the winning but for the personal achievement. There are days when you win because nobody else had a great day, a judge clearly liked you, etc. And there are days when you don’t win but were perhaps your best, and maybe you conquered some previous bugaboo or did something new or hard. It can be very hard for someone who likes competition-- the point of which is to win - to shift to emphasizing the process rather than the end. And harder still when the people she wants to impress are impressed by the end. You sound genuinely impressed by your D, so you can be the supportive voice in the process camp. Even when they win, saying “What a great outcome. Sometimes it doesn’t work out that way, so wonderful that it did today!”
In anything competitive, there is always someone better unless you’re currently top in the world. But it’s helpful to someone multi-faceted to be reminded that they are best at being them. It’s also helpful to remind them of having them think about why they haven’t specialized. It can be very tough to be really good, but not exceptional, at several things because that is a form of exceptional that doesn’t get the same attention.
There are so many messages, subtle and overt, that someone gets as a result of competing. You, as a parent, can throw a bit of weight into the merit of putting yourself out there, learning about yourself, and doing things for yourself rather than the recognition. As life unfolds, those will be the valuable lessons learned.
Take a look at SUNY Geneseo. Strong academics, OOS scholarships, reasonable cost for OOS students, has alpine skiing and dance
Wake Forest is another one that has dance, however it will likely be quite costly.
Has your daughter taken a look at the recommendations?
NYC often smells fresh, particularly in Manhattan. However, I have encountered a New Haven smell.
Not a New Haven pizza smell? 
For NYC, it’s the Times Square smell. All the cannibis trucks didn’t help.
Fordham(Central Park location) might be ok, though.
The U.S. Open smell 
Appalachian State University is starting an Alpine Ski team and has a BA in Dance Studies. Daughter could possibly apply to the Honors College there too.
I know your daughter is busy with classes, dance, and college apps. Has she had a chance to review the recommended schools?
I want to suggest again the University at Buffalo. It has alpine skiing, a strong and competitive dance dept, and it is very strong in the sciences and pre-health. There is a medical school and a lot of health facilities, volunteering etc..and it appears to be a safety or strong target.