I’m starting freshman year at Loomis Chaffee in 2017-2018 school year. I’m a closeted lesbian and wondering what the general feeling towards gay people is??
I strongly doubt you’ll encounter any significant bad feelings or discrimination at any of the northeastern boarding schools.
Now, if you had said you were a closeted conservative…
I would say that for the most part, boarding schools are very accepting! I would highly doubt anybody would give you lip. I have a close family wmmeber who went to Loomis and he said that everybody was very accepting of each other, which is great to hear! Please feel no need to answer this question if you feel that’s it’s to personal: Are you considering coming into Loomis as an out lesbian or are you going to stay closeted? No need to answer just wondering 
cababe97, i was planning on staying closeted until i really got a feel for the community so that i wouldn’t be known as a lesbian, but instead as myself. I also am not quite out to my parents yet so I don’t want them to hear from gossip instead of from me. I don’t mind you answering! Thanks for your help!
I’m not LGBT and don’t know too much about Loomis Chafee, but here goes:
There is a gay/straight alliance at there school called Spectrum. I then looked at their school newspaper website, and the first thing that popped onto my screen as a “hot topic” was: “DAY OF SILENCE: STUDENTS SHOW SOLIDARITY WITH THE LGBT+ COMMUNITY.” The website is —> http://thelclog.org/2017/05/03/day-of-silence-students-show-solidarity-with-the-lgbtq-community/
Best of luck.
^ correction: I meant “there”, not “at there school”
Hello…Prepx3D goes to Loomis and has friends who are at Loomis Chaffee and are out, and it they have found it be a very accepting community. Granted, this is what she has heard from her friends who are at LC now, but they have had positive experiences in the community.
And, congrats on becoming a Pelican!!
First of all, congrats! I will be a four year senior year at Loomis, so I know the community pretty well. There are a number of openly lesbian people at Loomis, and there has even been a few gay hookups that have occurred on campus. Nevertheless, you must remember that it is a bastion of privilege, and there are some highly conservative people who will silently avoid you if you come out. Outside of those few, though, you will find an accepting and supportive community, within which you will find your own niche of friends. A great opportunity I’d recommend would be asking an older girl who is openly lesbian (I can think of a few), as they can guide you. Regardless of whether or not you come out, I am confident that you can have a great time!
@SatchelSF I’m not sure what your experience is with Loomis, but in my four years I have never seen a voice silenced. Respectful people of all political persuasions are accepted, and we have even had a small trump demonstration on campus. I will say, though, that the intelligent, academic environment fostered in the classroom is not always conducive to conservative thought.
“I will say, though, that the intelligent, academic environment fostered in the classroom is not always conducive to conservative thought.”
Thank you, you’ve made my point!
@blueorangeblue Thank you for the reassurances. I’ve been on campus for about a week and have already met proudly open lesbians and seen a female/female couple kissing.
@GreekBean I hope you get a good education where you learn to listen and debate alternative points of view. an education that preaches to its choir is no education.
@Center Where is your comment coming from? How is it applicable and pertinent to the topic of this thread?
OP posted: “I’m starting freshman year at Loomis Chaffee in 2017-2018 school year. I’m a closeted lesbian and wondering what the general feeling towards gay people is??” This is a very serious question and clearly important to OP. Kind of an odd query to post about two weeks out. One would think this issue would have beeninvestigated much earlier in the process. That being said, one doesnt typically choose an expensive and challenging boarding school for one reason. I am simply suggesting that OP thinks broadly. Glad he/she saw a lesbian couple kissing but that alone doesnt make the school nor should it define the opportunity.