Losing trust and confidence after screwing up big time

International Students
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Hi everyone

This is the first time I have posted my own question on a forum so I am not really sure if I have done everything correctly . But… Here I go.

So I kinda screwed up my first year in university (here where I live there is no in between like a college I think. After you graduate from highschool, you will just enter an university. Dunno if that you can also do that in the US?) So I kinda screwed up my first year cause I didn’t want to study what I did but was to afraid to tell it to my parents. So what did smart me do? I just screwed myself over and didn’t study seriously for my exams. So I kinda failed very badly.

A good thing is that my parents did agree to let me study something else in September but I still have to retake like ALL my exams. And after that big failure my parents don’t have any faith in me anymore and to be honest I don’t trust myself either anymore and am running away again from my problems. Like, I used to only get eights and nines and had never been confronted with such bad grades as these but what was worse was that the a big gap between high school and university is something that you must learn to cross throughouth the year. And, I got no clue how to jump over that gaping whole in the ground.

So I’m stuck with this dilemma that I will probably screw everything up again and I am just running away from my problem because of fear of losing all the trust of my parents. So insteed of trying, I am just procrastinating. Doing useless stuff and trying to do everything last minute.

Could someone maybe tell me how I could get rid of this fear? Cause I am scared that I will take it with me next year to screw me over again without any purpose this time. (I can’t really deal with being a dissapointment for others because I will just believe them.)

And does somebody maybe know how I could try to make it clear to my parents that this year I failed because of my lack of trying? Because they think that I did everything that I could and still failed. I can’t really say that I was scared of their opinion, cause that will only make it worse…

Oh, but for all the others that are not happy with their major and want to switch… DO NOT and I mean like NEVER EVER do what I did to study something else. You’ll get a depression, my dear.

Sorry for language mistakes…

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Tell your parents that you hated your major, that you didn’t do the work, aand that that is why you failed your exams. Tell them that you expect to fail again when you retake the exams becuase you mever learned the material.

Then find out if you absolutely must retake these exams before beginning your new major. If you have to take the exams, find out if you absolutely have to pass them before beginning your new major. If you have to pass them, get a tutor to help learn enough so that you can pass.

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Thank you very much

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Well, it didn’t go that well with my parents. But still, thank you. Now that I have told them, I can just concentrate on my new major and try to let them believe in my by showing them my actions. Like they say, actions tell more than just words.