So, my oldest sister died today. I have lost parents, but siblings is a whole new thing.
She was 70. She never took care of herself, and I’ve often wondered how she lived so long!
But I am devastated. It is my sister for g’ds sake. She was 9 years older than me. That made her my idol when I was young. And she had a very interesting life. For instance, she was an RN and Lieutenant in the Air Force. Also worked in the ER in LA. Also did a stint as a counter lady at Macy’s NYC in cosmetics for a season.
I’m so sad
We were six as a family growing up. We are down to three.
My deepest condolences. H lost his parents and his older sister. We also lost BIL’s wife. My sibs are still amongst us, ranging from ages 61-49, plus my folks. It’s hard to lost close family members, especially siblings. Take care of yourself!
I’m so sorry, morrismm. My H’s sister was killed in a car accident 10 years ago. it will never seem okay. And my brother lost his wife this summer. It does hit hard. Sending you hugs.
I’m so very sorry! I completely understand how you feel - my parents are both gone and it’s been touch and go with one sibling. You grow up together and it’s unimaginable that you’ll not always be that family unit. She sounds like an incredibly interesting woman who followed her own path…her life no doubt helped form the person you are today. Deepest condolences and my heart goes out to you.
I’m so sorry @morrism . My brother and I lost our beloved Mum this year. Having each other for support and the 3 weeks we spent together dealing with things and sharing our memories of her were just so special. We live on different continents so only see each other once a year but just can’t imagine how I’d feel if he was gone. {{{Hugs}}}
I am sorry, morrismm! I have not lost a parent or a sibling as yet. I do know that H went through a hard time when his brother died 7 years ago. It left a hole, even for me, who didn’t grow up with him.
My condolences. I don’t see my siblings as much as I should but we’re tight, all things considered. It’s hard to imagine no longer having them here on earth.
I am very sorry for your loss. I understand. I lost my oldest sister in March and, while we had a complicated relationship in later years, it has been a crushing loss. There is a particular kind of loneliness when losing a sibling. They are the people who have been around for every stage of your life and even when you are separated for a while, there are things that only they will ever understand and usually without explanation. I started as one of five, with two sisters. Now I am one of three and I am a person who has no sisters. Which is a surprising hit to my personal identity. One of the things that surprised me was how other people seem to view the loss of a sibling as no big deal. It is a very big deal, so please give yourself time and permission to grieve for as long as you need to.