You’re probably right.
This is perfect thank u so much
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Mom doesn’t want me going there cause I was there for a visit and I nearly got spiked. Beautiful campus and nice people tho. Ignore the dude that made such a vile assumption.
Nope, sorry. Got confused what exactly low income classes were. We are solid middle class.
I reposted because I had updated information. And things have changed since then, changed a lot.
I am not lying, but that doesn’t put me in the right. Im sorry for the confusion, exaggerations, and stubbornness. I don’t deserve this advice, I kinda suck. Ill admit that. Im scared and thats why im here but that doesn’t justify anything. If I could delete my account I would.
She says there are only “buyer” schools that have an overflow of students and can reject whoever they want, and “seller” schools that sell themselves to students with the main goal of getting students to come there. And that the concept of safeties/target/reach is outdated cause of Covid.
I think you have received quite a few recommendations for schools on the thread (and all of them were based on how good the colleges are, not religion). You have called a few of the school recommendations as insulting to you but hopefully you can reconsider.
I feel perhaps adding to your original post that a school with good academic and mental health supports may be useful.
I feel sorry for your cousin.
As someone who has worked in healthcare for almost 30 years and teaches college students full time, for your possible majors, it really is about finding the best fit for your emotional needs and financial constraints. You really can be successful anywhere.
I don’t know of a single person who got a nursing degree who needs to live on the streets unless they made poor financial decisions after college graduation.
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Hi 2plustrio. Im really sorry I was rude to you. You don’t deserve that, nobody does but especially not you since you were trying to help me. I didnt say those things cause I meant them fully, I was just frustrated.
Thank you and everyone else for the school recommendations. I really didnt know what I was talking about and I should have came here with a more open mind. I didnt make a list before cause I didn’t wanna look at this threat but that is immature. Im gonna go back through the thread, make a list, and do proper research when I get home. I do really like Pitt, Bing, StonyBrook, and Delaware tho.
About Alabama- I visited recently and I had a bad encounter at a frat, but that happened before I made the comment. Its a beautiful school with a beautiful campus and most people are extremely nice. My cousin has always been a huge inspiration for me and I love her to bits and pieces but theres some more personal stuff involved when it comes to my bigger family. I really dont wanna go into details for my own personal safety but its more the frat culture then the school. But that doesn’t give me justification to hate on the school, and a good program that has people who will be more successful then I will ever be.
My beliefs and opinions came from a place of fearful and immature close-mindedness that was reluctant to change and based on the beliefs of opinions of people that don’t really know what they are talking about (my parents). I hope to someday be a good member of this forum but for now I think I screwed up beyond a line. Thanks for taking time out of your day to help me and others.
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Your mother is not wrong wrt the concepts but she’s deriving the wrong conclusion - “seller” schools that attracted students with merit scholarships also make sure these kids do well. Do you/your mother think UAlabama (* m would attract so many kids from NJ IL CA with scholarships would keep attracting them if after 4 years they had poor outcomes? Kids in honors colleges or with named scholarships are like VIPs. So they make a smart trade by taking the money, get offered opportunities they’re smart enough to seize, have fun, make friends, find jobs.
If you choose a field with a national certification like ABET (Engineering) or required professional exams with pass rates like nursing or teaching and 90+% students pass it, you have a job unless you’re bottom 10% (it doesn’t sound like your goal is to party your way to bottom 10% so I think you’re safe.)
I know it’s stressful, especially when your family is putting so much pressure on you and doesn’t necessarily understand the college admission landscape.
But you should not worry to find yourself jobless or homeless because of the college you chose.
(* there are reasons why you may not like Alabama : the state itself, the heat, the heavy greek culture, how huge football is, Dobbs… all are legitimate. Check out the “reasons my kid crossed out a college”, thread to see the weirdest reasons - too many trees, doesn’t smell right…- and all are legit once you’re admitted and need to cross out a bunch. But poor outcomes after graduation is NOT reason.)
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I’m sorry that you find the college search process so stressful, especially as you try to make sense of seemingly conflicting advice.
You’ve admitted that you made some rude comments and were not very open to hearing about others’ ideas. That is a HUGE step in the right direction, not just in terms of the forum, but in terms of how you live your life. You don’t need to take statements as gospel truth. Asking questions politely and thinking seriously about people’s ideas will make people want to help you (again, I’m talking, in life).
Most of the posters here are parents. We’ve all experienced what it’s like when a kid is being a smart aleck, or blowing us off, or being rude, etc. We don’t write our kids off, though. We inform them about how they’re making poor choices, give them space to reflect, and allow them to make a genuine apology, which is also shown by a positive change in behavior. It sounds as though you’re ready to re-embark on this process with a good-faith effort, and if you do so, I think you will see the posters re-engage with you.
I agree and would suggest that you research the schools mentioned in this thread and your previous one. Write down things you like and dislike about them. Write down questions you have, either about the schools, or why they were selected, or anything else you’re wondering about. If you can share things that you like/dislike about schools, then people can give you better, more targeted suggestions. If you have questions, then we can try to explain so that you have a better understanding and can also research schools indepedently that don’t get mentioned here (because I can assure you, there will be good schools out there that will not get a mention here).
Take care of yourself and make sure you’re following the advice of your health providers. I am not a health professional, but my own medical team has always advised getting sufficient sleep every night and getting some exercise every day (even if it’s just walking around the neighborhood and getting some fresh air) as having major benefits for mental health. I suspect your care team would provide the same advice.
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You can hate on a school for whatever reason. I just caution against totally yucking someone else’s yum (if that makes sense). So saying “I don’t feel safe” at a school is a good reason for YOU to not pick that school. But saying “people who go to XYZ school are stupid or going to be losers” is not very polite.
My daughter is a super short and small Latina so diversity and personal safety are huge deciding factors for her. (She also wants to “look good” in the school colors but hey, she knows cost and other factors come before that.) 
No matter where you end up, someone will have something negative to say about the place. College choice seems to bring up lots of strong opinions with many people. But this is about YOU and where YOU feel safe and supported and a place YOU can afford.
There are some good guidance counselors out there so hopefully yours is helping you in a positive way. I know my daughter was told to not count on the “diversity advantage” for lack of a PC way to say it at most schools. And as much as family sometimes means well, if they do not have direct knowledge or experience with applying to college in the last 3 years, their opinions are likely pretty much useless in terms of chancing. And if they don’t work in a medical or healthcare field, their knowledge of what a “good” college is for those majors is likely pretty much slim to none.
You will get into a college. You will do just fine. You will graduate and get a job and move on with your life. Try to view it as a little less scary and a bit more exciting. You may get to go to a place many of your family and friends havent!
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Thank you so much everyone again. Ive made a list of a lot of these schools but I still kinda suck. I can be really immature and often times I don’t like seeing so many people do better then me in something. I’ve yet to see a chance-me or match-me with a lower psat score then mine, lol. I’m gonna take the advice I was given on my very first thread; leaving the forum for a bit until I can be more mature and get my stuff together. But ill be taking the advice with me.
Wishing the best for everyone!
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My kids do ACT but I promise my daughters will be low. Top score is 36. She took hers today and said 2 sections she couldn’t get close to being done with the questions within the time frame and with 2 minutes left had to just fill in boxes! We already planned on test optional schools for her. (She is also a junior).
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