I am open to hearing from others in the meantime about this since I’m highly concerned about the ethics of what occurred.
You have two options:
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Move on and do better
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Go sit with a dean and tell them exactly what you did and ask their guidance and potentially suffer consequences and lose what you have (if it’s as bad as you seem to think)
You can ask a million times - those are your options.
I might just contact the deans of either my MA and/or Ph.D programs respectively then.
Just know you may end up with nothing…
But if that will clear your conscious…
I suggest doing what @blossom said - and seek medical help.
But you do you…
Good luck.
I know the risk that could happen. I am going to speak with my partial hospitalization program therapist about this on Monday (they aren’t open on weekends) before I do anything though.
I just want to clear my conscious of this even if there are a handful of those who were admitted to graduate school who did these sorts of things and got on with their lives.
is what you did so egregious that it’s worth throwing away everything you worked for?
I see your point now. I need to sit on that for sure since now I don’t know.
I might be hallucinating but wasn’t there a post a moderator made here a bit ago? Don’t want to get off topic too much but thought I’d bring that up.
One more vote for “talk to your psychiatrist or psychologist” (one that has a PhD or PsyD, not a master level one, so they can give you a perspective from having been through a similar program). Do this before you talk to faculty in your program.
The current therapist I’m speaking to at this partial hospitalization program is a Master’s level limited license therapist (Michigan actually allows those with a Master’s in clinical to practice but its not a full license) and they went through a Psy.D program decades ago but had to drop due to the faculty and how they interacted with students + a kid on the way.
ETA: My therapist who I’d see weekly has a DSW. Not quite a Psy.D but from what I know requirements to get a DSW are similar enough.
My suggestion is to talk with a provider who has been through a similar doctoral level program.
I’ll see if I can find a Ph.D or Psy.D in that case. My current therapist I see outside of my partial hospitalization program (the DSW) had similar program requirements (qualifiers, dissertation) so I think he’d help but I see your point.
The doctoral level SW should be fine.
Under ethical guidelines, I’m not allowed to see him until I’m discharged from the program. Here’s hoping tomorrow goes smoothly even after I’m honest about my lack of showering, not brushing my teeth since yesterday, and being behind on my asynchronous lectures.
Is the underlying issue honesty?
If you mean the underlying issue I’m going through right now that’s paralyzing me, it is accuracy moreso than honesty. I only say that because I don’t remember if I exagerated the months I was in the lab on purpose or not. The same goes for the other details I listed in my longer post earlier today. Those were all things I did at one point but not an extended period of time.
I understand my therapist’s point that there was no way of knowing if a different representation would’ve led to a different outcome, but I still feel guilty about not being careful and misrepresenting myself. A part of me wants to remedy that somehow. I won’t do anything for now but still its an awful feeling.
Mondoz- having persistent negative feelings, catastrophizing possible outcomes, not being able to move forward… these are all things to discuss with your health care team. If you are being paralyzed by negative thoughts, I’d encourage you to focus on getting well for now. And if you haven’t been able to shower or brush your teeth- you really need to come clean with your providers.
I do need to come clean with this partial hospitalization program tomorrow and see what they will recommend from here. As you can probably guess, I’m someone who rarely sees the “grey” in a lot of particular things.
I don’t know you, and I’m not an MD. But there are many possible causes for the distress you are experiencing and for some, there is likely a drug or treatment protocol that can help, and for others, connecting with a good therapist can help. And of course, maintaining good hygiene, eating right, getting exercise, the right amount of sleep, etc.
I know you are in a painful place right now and I hope your team can help you.
I will bring this all up to them tomorrow for sure. It’s a shame too since I was hoping to be discharged tomorrow but that does not look like it will happen.