<p>Senior d had a first date last week with a new guy. He came to the door and shook her dad’s hand, but d was ready and off they went. Last night - same thing. Texting her that he was outside would not have been okay, so I’m glad that scenario didn’t play out. I had asked d to be ready about 10 minutes before he was to arrive, so that he didn’t have to awkwardly visit with us while waiting for her - I believe my comment was along the lines of “please, don’t do that to any of us.” I expect good manners - coming to door and saying hello. If the young man did not do so, I probably would have walked out to the car and nicely said that he needed to come in for a minute to be checked out. :). </p>
<p>My two cents on the current discussion: I guess I fall in the middle here. I wouldn’t have been comfortable with him asking me for permission to take my d out. (Forget dad - he’s barely comfortable with the idea of the girls dating :p) Nor would I have known what to answer. Asking me for permission would have been too much for a simple first date - whether to the movies or the prom. However, he best be willing to make that “walk to the door and exchange pleasantries” effort.</p>