https://m.tjmaxx.tjx.com/m/jump/product/women-women-dresses-cocktail/Made-In-USA-Chloe-Silk-Dress/1000227554?colorId=NS1003464&pos=3:7&N=1762182941
NOt sure this meets your criteria but I love it and I think it would be pretty with blue gray bridesmaids dresses.
Not my favorite but it lavender and you commented that you liked another jacketed dress.
I went to a wedding last week and the MOB I realize was wearing the Komarov dress in vintage rose without the jacket. I admit that whenever anyone posts that dress I thought the fabric looked cheap for the price and I’ve also thought that when I saw the dress on a hanger in the store. I was surprised when I saw it on the MOB as it was stunning. The MOB was small chested and the dress was flattering.
I know I have a dress. But Nordstrom just came out with this one and I ordered it. http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/komarov-charmeuse-chiffon-a-line-dress-regular-petite/4666346?origin=category-personalizedsort&fashioncolor=DUSKY%20THISTLE
I am in love with this dress. It is very much my style and color. I like that it has sleeves for an October wedding. And I think it would look good with the shoes I just bought lol!
@thumper1 - Here are a few.
@thumper1: One piece of advice, though: Don’t buy a short dress if it looks like something a guest might wear. If you’re going to go short, it has to be a home run – not ordinary. JMO.
Well, I finally got shoes that D can tolerate for a few hours as well as a pair of ballet flats that she can change into for dancing. She said she’d be happy barefoot, but I don’t want her to step on glass or anything and we did get her some nice ballet shoes with arch supports so she can be lovely in her bridesmaid gown.
Last night I attended a dinner that was at the shopping center, right across from Macy’s. After dinner, I went to the women’s shoe dept and took photos of all the shoes and let D choose which ones she wanted me to buy and then bought 2 pairs of one style and 3 pairs of another, sizes 6, 6.5 and 7 except for the style they were out of 7. She tried them on last night, then went for a walk with us and came back and tried them one again and chose the one pair of shoes that she felt fit best and was most tolerable for walking as much as she will need to today.
Phew! I am SO glad to be done with all of this shoe stuff! I will have to take all the pairs of shoes back to Macy’s and get our account re-credited!
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/milly-cutout-swing-dress?ID=2536577&CategoryID=1005206&LinkType=#fn=COLOR%3DPink;;Purple%26ppp%3D%26spp%3D79%26sp%3D1%26rid%3D121|BOOST%20SAVED%20SET%26spc%3D91%26rsid%3Dundefined%26pn%3D1|2|79|91
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/lauren-ralph-lauren-floral-lace-dress?ID=2542929&CategoryID=1005206&LinkType=#fn=BRAND%3DRalph%20Lauren%26COLOR%3DPink;;Purple;;Red%26ppp%3D%26spp%3D4%26sp%3D1%26rid%3D121|BOOST%20SAVED%20SET%26spc%3D6%26rsid%3Dundefined%26pn%3D1|2|4|6
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/lauren-ralph-lauren-circle-lace-sheath-dress?ID=2542922&CategoryID=1005208&LinkType=#fn=BRAND%3DRalph%20Lauren%26COLOR%3DPink;;Purple;;Red%26ppp%3D%26spp%3D3%26sp%3D1%26rid%3D121|BOOST%20SAVED%20SET%26spc%3D17%26rsid%3Dundefined%26pn%3D1|2|3|17 This one appeals to the architect in me. 
Is this the new in thing to have unfinished edges? I bought a dress recently that did the same thing at the neckline, and I’d like it much better if those edges were finished.
Lots of wedding dresses have the unfinished edges.
How will that look in pictures when in white?
My sister wore a dress similar to this in gold, as the wedding colors were lavender and gold. https://m.6pm.com/p/laundry-by-shelli-segal-metallic-side-shirred-gown-with-gold-necklace-gold-silver/product/8541241/color/6537 She looked amazing as MOB.
Yes, I don’t get how you pay so much for clothing that has unfinished edges–I wouldn’t like that either.
Thank you for the dress suggestions. I guess I should clarify a bit more. I do not want to wear white, or off white or any kind of white. At all. I’m not a fan of gold…and truthfully, my coloring is not suited to it either.
To clarify the colors…the pink I would like is what you would get a baby girl…that color pink. Not fuscia, not hot pink, and not real pale pink blush. Lavender is the only color in the purple family I would like to find. Not eggplant, or violet…just pastel lavender.
Dresses with full skirts will make me look like Little Lotta (for those of you old enough to remember her). Not a good look!
Some of the suggestions above are beautiful. Unfortunately the ones I like the best no longer are available in my size (8).
Keep the ideas coming! I’m looking at them all!!
Maybe too light?
I think those are lovely for a person with the right skin tones / coloring.
@deb922 , I love that dress! All of those lace sheath numbers are just too stiff for me. 
I love flowy tea length.
I look at these dresses and think all of you must be at a great weight and feel so confident wearing them.
I envy you and have enjoyed looking at them with you.
I am a short legged peasant bodied woman about 15 lbs overweight.
I look terrible in any dress whatsoever. I have not had a dress on in over 15 yrs.
I know I am pretty OK but I am not comfortable in fitted clothes.
When any of you have a moment I would love to see some MOB tops.
I would never wear a pantsuit.
I plan on dressy slacks and black tank and ??? and nice wedge shoes.
21 guests / alternative wedding with some walking.
This lavender might be very light; it is hard to tell:
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/adrianna-papell-ruffle-hem-lace-dress?ID=2572351&CategoryID=1005206&LinkType=#fn%3Dspp%3D18
http://www.neimanmarcus.com/Johnny-Was-Mix-Print-Kimono-Jacket-Plus-Size/prod187570152/p.prod?ecid=NMCS__GooglePLA&utm_medium=CSE&utm_source=NMCS__GooglePLA&utm_campaign=JohnnyWas
@oregon101 something like above?
https://m.macys.com/shop/product/free-people-sheer-kimono?ID=4565439&pla_country=US&CAGPSPN=pla&CAWELAID=120156340013755877&CAAGID=18892438741&CATCI=aud-76852206748:pla-94810045970&cm_mmc=Google_Womens_PLA--RTW+Womens_Free+People±+GS_Jackets--70943816101-_-pg49596_t_kclickid_d452c6be-f6ac-4322-b0f8-d2eaa6464324&trackingid=424x49596&catargetid=120156340002784819&cadevice=t&gclid=Cj0KEQjwnazLBRDxrdGMx-Km4oQBEiQAQJ1q6-99fzSZRkKEJRFc3QOrjneU9OGiP_9-W–GJf48qtQaAsmn8P8HAQ
yes, mom60, I love Johnny Was. I worry that in the pictures the patterns are too busy but this designer is very much
my look and comfort.
The Free people is too short.
I wear a 10 or medium top in general.
I had never heard of Johnny Was but after poking around, I really like his stuff. Check out this whole bunch from Bloomie’s:
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/search?keyword=johnny+was&cm_kws_ac=johnny+was