Well, a bit off topic as what I was looking for tonight was a fun and sassy thing to wear to the
celebration/bday for FSIL that is a dance in Boston. Could wear the same as the weekend before
but am still holding onto these insanely high (3.16) platfoms that have black crystals on the top.
For some completely unknown reason I am in love with these shoes.
Had HH at the restaurant that their dinner will be held and checked out the loft and
the seating. Figured out the amount of flowers and candles. Had some of the house red
and H had the red–perfectly nice.
Then walked around and popped into a boutique where I recently returned some shoes and so
had a credit. Gal had 17 minutes to closing–got me a nice cold glass of champagne .
She picked out a top and D picked out another and I think they are both good for some part of this
week long celebration. Lots of fun tonight! And YES To The Shoes.
I wish I was feeling as good about my clothing for the wedding. Went back to pick up my dress yesterday after a basting fitting last week when everything was perfect, except a problem with the zipper not sitting correctly and causing it to bunch up. The fitter (this is at Saks in NYC) is great but clearly the seamstress, not so much. The zipper problem was not fixed and she made it worse. it now bunches at the hip, pulls across the chest and the hem is uneven. The dress, as yu know, is a solid navy crepe column, so it all shows. URGHH. The wedding is in less than two weeks, I am out of town for my nieces’ Bat mitzvah from Thursday-Monday, and the last thing I have time for is to head into the city the Tuesday before the wedding not even knowing if it will be right . I complained to the tailoring manager, the sales manager and anyone else I could find, but that won’t make it right and ready in time. I specifically brought it back to the store for tailoring so they would be responsible, but this is a level of anxiety I just don’t need right now. If it’s not right next Tuesday, I don’t know what I’m going to do. It’s not like I’m all that important at this affair, but I’d sure like to look nice. Okay, breathe, rant over!
Hope things work out well for you. Do you happen to know of any amazing tailors or dress makers that you could take it to and have Nordstrom pick up the tab?
I agree about finding a different seamstress if you get get your hands on the dress.
Also, depending on the $$$ and such, I would be all over the internet looking for another
and rush it to myself and get it fitted locally if the first does not become right.
And then, in the end, I would just take a deep breath and know that it will be just fine no
matter what.
I wished you lived near me. The bridal store where my D bought her dress directed us to an outside seamstress. She did an amazing job on D’s dress and my own. She also had this wonderfully calming demeanor. We called her the Dress Whisperer. At least you found this out this week and not next week, after the final fitting. Better to front load this stress where you can. I’m sure you’ll look beautiful on the special day!
Thanks all - I specifically took it back to Saks for the tailoring so they would be responsible for any screw-ups. and I don’t have a good tailor. I’m sure they will make it as right as they can, and if they don’t, well they better find me an alternative. I don’t have a back-up dress because I don’t wear much formal wear and what I do have no longer fits. I keep repeating, it will all be fine, and deep down, I know it will. And yes, better this week than next.
D’s BFF (who is kinda an adopted one for us and sees us as such) came for dinner with her
2 year old for pizza and critiqued my outfits and helped pick out jewelry --so $$$$ jacket, $$$shoes,
pants I have worn for every event for at least 5 years, new tank for $22 and an $18 necklace.
It is all good!!!
Hysterical. She is a fashion queen and I trust her completely.
Also set up the next outfit with same shoes, $29 necklace, $57 top and pants I have own,
and so on and on.
She took me to get makeup and most is good.
I am so relived for this as I am not comfortable making these decisions at all.
Also, as much as I love my D, I do not trust her taste for me.
argh
I need some kind of bag or purse–what are all of you taking?
I need a larger bag to tote with supplies of different sorts–I have that.
I think I need a smaller clutch or such–I own one I paid $15 for 12 years ago–it will not
do as it has silver on it and I need gold…
@runnersmom Since it seems like Saks was responsible for making the dress a worse fit, can you get them to replace it with a new one and start from scratch on alterations? Is there another available in your size?
@oregon101 it sounds like you have an in house stylist, that’s awesome!
Do you have time to order a clutch on line? Nordstrom has some really nice ones. I found a nice clutch at TJ Maxx on the clearance rack. Maybe your friend who helped you with your outfit can find one for you to buy. I find that those who are into this kind of stuff love to look on line for what you need.
I have a dress I am in love with. I showed the dress to all of my friends and they loved it and said it was the one. So why am I having second thoughts? Ugh! My mom and mil, that’s why! I didn’t show either of them but I told them it is fancy and they both seemed disapproving. I think it’s because they have picked out more casual dresses. But the wedding is a late afternoon ceremony and evening reception in a fancy venue.
Ugh! Again! My mom and mil (especially mil) have definite ideas and don’t have any qualms about expressing them. Maybe I’m just getting nervous. The shower is this weekend. I have a casual dress picked out that everyone I’ve showed it to loved it, my mil will probably hate it.
Deb, if you and your good friends like your dresses, then wear with confidence. Unless u wore some 1950 outfit or a burlap sack, your MIL would disapprove. For whatever reason, jealousy, disappointment that you are her DIL, she won’t give you her seal of approval.
Deb, I second what the others said. Me thinks your mom and especially MIL will be impossible to please even with a burka. Go for the dresses you picked!
Goodness, no way should you let them bring you down. Do you like their style?
Do you respect their taste for you? If you did then you would be happy to show them the dress.
I had a mother who simply could not give approval and needed to make comments to upset
even those she cared about. I would have needed, in your position, to tell her ahead of time that
she was not to comment on my dresses. Period. Seriously.
As for the MIL, I would tell H to tell his mother the same.
Both need to know that this day is not about them. And then if they get snotty you can just avoid
them throughout the day.
Your friends are being honest with you because they know you trust them.
Bet they are gorgeous and appropriate and, no, would never trust the older generation–including
myself! to vote on this subject. And a plus is that you like them and feel good. win-win
Yeah, their behavior hit one of those “almost deactivated” buttons :-q
I need some expert advice – and I see lots of experts on this thread.
The dress has no zipper. The fabric is sort of stretchy, and you just pull the dress on over your head.
How do I do this without risking getting a deodorant stain on the dress? Is there a particular way you would do it? Or a particular type of deodorant that I could get that doesn’t stain?
I had no trouble with deodorant in the store, probably because this was about the twentieth dress I tried on, and my deodorant was long gone by then. But the day of the wedding will be a different situation.
