Can you snip the lining off to deflate the puffiness?
I don’t know if I did the right thing for my son’s wedding 2 years ago, although I never heard any backlash. My DIL would not give me any direction, and told both her mother and myself we could wear anything we wanted. Her mother is not usually a dress wearer, and really wanted to wear a pantsuit! While I started dress shopping, I didn’t purchase anything until she did. Turns out she bought a navy long dress with a jacket; the bridesmaid also were wearing long navy. I asked my DIL again about what she wanted me to wear, and if she would prefer I wear navy; again, she said anything I wanted to wear was fine. She really is not one for details, and even told me she didn’t know wearing complementary colors was a thing 
I found a dress I really liked which was black with some pink sequins. I showed my DIL, and I think she showed her mother, who said it was fine. Again, my DIL just wanted us to be comfortable; the color or style was not important to her. I wish I could be so laid back 
So my dress while not dressier, was a different color than the girls and her mother.
That sleeve length would be fine on me.
@VeryHappy yes…first stop is the fifth floor of Lord and Taylor…the “dress floor”. Then probably Macy’s, then maybe Saks. All have good selections…and usually good sales!
I could’ve afforded a more expensive dress than the MOB when my son got married 2 years ago, but I was sensitive to that fact and decided that I wouldn’t buy an expensive looking dress. I certainly didn’t want to show up the MOB. My budget for the dress was still probably higher than hers, but our dresses didn’t appear to be significantly different.
If I keep the dress, I will definitely remove the netting from the lining. I still don’t know what the MOB is wearing. I really wish she would pick something so I would have a little guidance. I don’t want to show up anybody. And I don’t mean outspending her; I just don’t want to glitter and shine when she is wearing just a plain old “Sunday” dress. I would love to wear black and stand on the back row for the pictures!
I have no intention of sharing the cost of my dress with MOG…and I won’t be asking her the cost of her dress either. Why would that matter at all…as long as both of us look great and feel comfortable.
@my-3-sons - Jasmin bridal’s line for Mothers called Jasmine Black Label has many similar styles to your violet dress in many, many colors. Someone had mentioned them a few pages back. Here’s one:
Thanks, I was looking for thumper1, not myself. Two of mine are already married and the third is not there yet. There are some pretty dresses on that site.
Some of those are nice. I didn’t see the prices anywhere! Guess I have to trek to one of those shops to see this line. The nearest one to me…about an hour away.
Maybe if NYC is not successful, i will do that.
Folks…really…I’m not an odd size. I wore an Ann Taylor Loft silk shift dress to a wedding last fall…size 6…and it fit great.
But these gowns seem to run very differently in terms of size.
@oldfort, I think that this particular dress on that model looks like a bathrobe. Not DVF’s other dresses, many of which I like a lot. I did not issue a blanket condemnation of DVF.
YMMV
The dress I posted was NOT a DVF dress.
But it took me months to find a dress I actually like…and I do NOT think it looks like a bathrobe. And that’s what’s important. I’m just not sure the sizing will work for me…as it doesn’t come in a petite.
@thumper1, what is important is what it looks like on YOU, not the model, and whether YOU like it. I hope the color and sizing work for you.
I didn’t get that oldfort was somehow extrapolating from the fact that this dress is a faux wrap that I thought there was something wrong with all wrap dresses, and thus with DVF. I like wrap dresses. I like surplice tops. And I also like Ellen Tracy. IIRC, the drop waisted pale yellow linen dresses worn by my bridesmaids were Ellen Tracy.
Posting a pretty find…
http://m.shop.nordstrom.com/s/vince-camuto-embellished-sleeve-jersey-gown/4370846
Beautiful dress B.B.!
I second that it is a beautiful dress. I really like the detail (wrap), it is different.
There aren’t too many nice looking dresses with long sleeves!
The long sleeves will help with any air-conditioning at the venue.
Ok, so the dress I really liked from NM, my size finally came up online and I ordered it right away. It came today, unfortunately I would need to have a bust of 40 to fill it and I am far from it. 
I’m having a similar issue. The top parts of these dresses are just made for folks much better endowed than I am.
That is a bummer, oldfort. Lovely dress at a lovely discount.