I went through multiple rounds with Zappos for my MOG outfit. I would order 6 pairs, send them back and order more. I have wimpy feet and blister easily so I’m very picky. I found that the strap around the ankle was not a good look on my feet.
@mom60. What shoes did you end up with?
I’m the MOB in August and on the hunt for a dress and shoes.
Update. I felt encouraged by your responses to try metallic shoes and nude shoes as well as ordering a whole bunch.
I ordered all the shoes I posted about before, plus these from Taryn Rose:
https://www.tarynrose.com/makena-d-90847
https://www.tarynrose.com/collections/new-arrivals/odette-d-90868
I was hoping the taryn rose shoes would be comfortable since I know someone who swears by them. And they were clearly more comfortable than some of the others, but they still didn’t really work for me. Some of my toes were sticking out over the edge, but there was plenty of shoe showing in front of my big toe, so I don’t think going up a size would work. Feet are just so weird!
None of the shoes I ordered really fit perfectly. So back to zappos they go!
This is the one that I like the best so far:
https://www.zappos.com/p/nina-genaya-taupe-fairy-dust-reflective-suedette/product/8860413/color/680614?ref=pd_vh
I’m still thinking about whether they fit well enough. The straps are a little loose. But on other shoes the straps were too tight!
Those shoes are pretty.
Lovely shoes. Try the loose strap shoes at the end of a busy day when your feet are slightly swollen from all that activity and see if the loose straps become just right.
yes, I think I’ll keep trying them on. I may also try a pad under the ball of the foot.
They are higher than what I usually wear but they don’t feel all that high. They feel steadier than one of the other pairs with a shorter but narrower heel. And the metallic color on these is not too glitzy. I’ll keep them for consideration.
@dentmom4 I ended up with three pairs. I had pretty much decided on the Munro when I found the Eileen Fisher. My dress was full length so you couldn’t see my shoes. I wore the Munro to a recent wedding and kept them on all evening with no blisters.
https://www.zappos.com/p/munro-kristal-pearl-metallic-lizard-trim/product/8832854/color/672257
https://www.nordstromrack.com/shop/product/2531479?cm_mmc=feeds--adlucent--google-_-pla&utm_source=adlucent&utm_medium=feeds&utm_content=google&utm_campaign=pla&utm_channel=shopping_acq_p&sid=545650&aid=%5BADL%5D%20%5BPLA%5D%20%5BShopping%5D%20-%20Categories%20-%20Brand%20-%20%5BTablet%5D&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI147K1Knl4AIVyLXACh3AiAvfEAQYByABEgImLfD_BwE&color=PLATINUM
@orangepurple - I suggest you keep ordering. If they aren’t 100% comfortable I’d send them back.
I tried those eileen fisher’s on at nordstrom and was very disappointed because they seemed perfect at first, but only on one foot. very nice looking, though!
I liked those ones was Zappos, too!
I own the Walking Cradles sandals in the first post in black, having bought them in a rush after knee surgery for a summer wedding. They are comfortable, but the quality is not great, and, although I haven’t worn them a lot, the straps are showing a lot of wear. Personally, I’m fine with a black sandal in the summer. I’ve spent a lot of time ordering and returning sandals to replace them. It’s hard to find something pretty and comfortable to fit a slightly wide and unlovely foot.
@atp , I also wear black sandals in the summer, I was just thinking with her dress the other color would look prettier. I have several black sandals!
@atp and @conmama I still might end up with black sandals because so many of the gold ones look too glittery to me, and I’ve had a lot of black sandals in the past. Nude or metallic would be a little bit adventurous for me, but with some of the nicer gold ones, I was hoping the contrast between my feet and the shoe would be less noticeable, so that it my feet would just kind of blend in more. I just feel like my feet are not very attractive! And that maybe gold would look festive even in a lower heel. I sometimes have issues with feet, ankles, knees…then other times I feel OK for quite a long time and start thinking about having fancy shoes again.
I twisted my ankle some years ago wearing very sensible dress shoes, from Ecco or something similar, which was maddening/ironic. A very sturdy looking low-heeled shoe. (I’m doing my old physical therapy exercises again on my own just to keep strengthening the ankles.)
I didn’t really like the walking cradles in person.
I was just reading about Frances McDormand’s custom acid yellow Birkenstocks at the Oscars.
I completely agree with @wis75 (a discussion on whether or not it is possible for the human foot to ever be ‘comfortable’ balancing on a narrow pointed stick in the back while shoved into a pointed toe front is subject for a whole other thread).
Will you be going outside at all - since it’s a summer wedding? Does the venue have grass? Heels and grass make for a very bad combination.
A month before my D’s wedding I broke a toe. The cute pointed low heeled shoes I’d planned to wear were out of the question. Luckily I was also wearing a long dress.
I found a pair of reasonably comfort sandals that matched the dress. I knew they would work for the portion of the event where someone might actually be looking at my shoes. Although reasonably comfortable for a short walk down the aisle and subsequent meet and greets, they didn’t have enough support (or broken toe coverage) for dancing or walking around for a few more hours.
I changed into a pair of uber comfy Taos tennis shoes. The color matched the dress beautifully. Only one person noticed. Happened to be one of my original bridesmaids who has always been the fashion conscious one. She came up to the dance floor, pull up my gown a few inches and said 'what the %^$, I’ve been standing on these (multi inch stilettos) for hours and you get to wear those?" And far from being 'old lady-ish, they were quite cute and funky.
BTW, D - the bride - changed into glittered tennis shoes at the reception. And she had a heck of a comfy time walking around meeting everyone and dancing the night away.
Why tell this story…because in the end comfort was king/queen. Yes, if someone else is so obsessed with the footwear of others then they do need get a life. IMO, nothing looks worse than women who are in obvious foot pain. You can tell a mile away. It’s the shifting from one foot to another. it’s the slipping off of the shoe under the table and the contorted look when they have to be slipped back on, it’s the sly attempts at rubbing a sore spot, it’s the really heavy leaning on a partners arm.
If you are considering a change of shoe later in the evening I’d say go ahead and get whichever ‘dress’ version makes you feel best and you can tolerate. Balance the length of the dress with a cute pair of dark blue tennies or such and have a blast dancing.
https://www.zappos.com/p/sofft-innis-platino-rasputin/product/8646909/color/667702
I also ended up liking these. They come in a lot of colors. I wanted to like a strappy delicate heel and I tried on every brand imaginable from high end to cheap but none were comfortable. As @dietz199 pointed out you will be in the shoes for a long period and in the end comfort is key.
What about a slingback? Like these: (though I’m not sure about the brand): https://shop.nordstrom.com/s/j-renee-jenvey-slingback-sandal-women/4487780?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FShoes%2FSandals&color=black%20fabric
I wore those silver Nina shoes to DDs wedding…but just to walk down the aisle and for pictures. I had a nice pair of silver ballet flats that I wore for the rest of the evening.
Actually, I went to four weddings last year…and I wore the silver strappy shoes to all of them…but only for,the ceremony and until we sat down for dinner. Then the little ballet flats came out.
I seldom wear any heel shoes so…in the better interest of not falling, the flats were the most of the evening shoes.
Undoubtedly these will not be elegant enough for some, but I was quite happy in these for Ds wedding. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07579CVGL/ref=oh_aui_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1 I rarely/never wear heels, but realized after wearing very nice silvery/gold flats for S’s wedding that even a tiny bit of heel looks better in photos.
For later dancing and mingling, a version of Bernie Mev’s were the ticket.https://www.amazon.com/Bernie-Mev-Womens-Cindy-Sandal/dp/B00IKEIPSC/ref=sr_1_12?keywords=bernie+mev+flat+gold&qid=1551654259&s=apparel&sr=1-12 This brand continues to be a great comfort to my often painful feet.
Gold is actually a neutral. Someone here (Emilybee, I think?) recommended Beautifeel shoes and that is what I bought for my daughter’s wedding last August. They were super comfortable and I didn’t want to take them off at any point in the day.
@Massmomm I tried a black beautifeel shoe last year. I didn’t really see any need for it in my wardrobe at that time so I didn’t buy it.
Many would find this too casual for MOB, but it is extremely comfortable and also hides the foot for those who think their feet are ugly. Maybe it would work for someone wearing a long dress and needing a fairly low and comfy heel. https://shop.nordstrom.com/s/munro-abby-slingback-sandal-women/3619330?country=US¤cy=USD&mrkgcl=760&mrkgadid=3313923699&utm_content=33067285669&utm_term=pla-260053868045&utm_channel=shopping_ret_p&sp_source=google&sp_campaign=662927176&rkg_id=0&adpos=1o2&creative=145503081107&device=c&matchtype=&network=s&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIycvhhdDs4AIVjh-tBh2g-ADVEAQYAiABEgKITvD_BwE