<p>This percentage is most likely quite a bit higher than the percentage of those engaging in POST marital sex!!! <em>ROFLMAO</em> Maybe the abstinence programs should include the suggestion of marriage? </p>
<p>This started with women “born in the 40’s,” They didn’t start having sex as babies, so we’re talking about people who came of age in the 60s (post pill) or later. I think this info is misleading. Though many people had sex before marriage even back then, their fiance(e)s were more likely to be their only partners. Now we have later marriage, multiple partners, living together before marriage, and more divorce (2nd and 3rd+ opportunities for “premarital” sex?)</p>
<p>I think you missed the second part of the headline dstart. “Almost 10% of Americans lie regarding whether they engaged in premarital sex”. :D</p>
<p>"I think you missed the second part of the headline dstart. “Almost 10% of Americans lie regarding whether they engaged in premarital sex”. </p>
<p>But honestly, how often do you hear about young people “saving it for marriage” (and I mean all of it)? How many people have their first sexual encounter on their wedding night? (or after). I think as a society we actually view that behavior as a bit odd. No need to post anecdotes - I know it exists. I just don’t need a survey to tell me it is rare.</p>
<p>When I read this thread it brings to mind my friends from high school and college who were so …uninhibited, shall we say, back then. Now they are THE most CONSERVATIVE people. If their kids knew half of what they did back then I really think they’d be shocked. I guess it is that “Don’t do what I did” mentality. It just seems a tad hypocritical to me sometimes.</p>
<p>My mother-in-law was a public health physician on a foreign aid mission to an Arabic country. One of her responsibilies was to verify that the prospective bride is a virgin. Yep, all daughters are virgins on their wedding nite.</p>
<p>umm, how do you check? And couldn’t you pay off the doctor? cause girls can get killed for not being a virgin, so any physician worth anything would cover for the girl- imagine if the doctor says, well this girl has had sex…and her family beats her…how would that doctor feel then… bet those doctors say, yep they are all pure as the driven snow, I would, to save a life</p>
<p>I would, and I can bet you they ain;t all virgins</p>
<p>and some hymens can be broken in a number of ways. what a chauvanistic, arrogant policy…makes me pretty angry actually</p>
<p>Lie in which direction? They claim they did but they didn’t, or vice versa?</p>
<p>This is not exactly a topic that comes up in conversation much, but among the people whose sexual histories I know, there are exactly zero who didn’t engage in premarital sex – a statistic that doesn’t surprise me in the least. But then, I don’t live in the Bible Belt.</p>
<p>To me, it seems like staying a virgin till marriage is more reasonable if you live in a society/era where getting married young is the norm. Remaining a virgin until age 19 is a lot different from abstaining until 35, or even 25.</p>
<p>We know a Mormon family with nine kids, many of whom have been in classes with various ones of my own kiddos. The girl who graduated with my oldest S is gifted in <em>so</em> many ways…VERY bright, driven, downright gorgeous and involved in many activities. She is a sophomore at BYU.</p>
<p>I just found out during my girls’ Madrigal Feast last week, where I ran into her mother, that she is marrying in February! :eek: This girl is a good 7 months younger than my son, so she is barely 19! Why any parent would prefer this to the chance that her child might have premarital sex is totally beyond me. The girl has only known this boy for a couple of months! This girl’s own mother followed the same pattern…went to BYU, met a guy, married immediately, and dropped out of school (the girl’s mom says that the girl will continue with her education but until when? Until she gets pregnant?). </p>
<p>Where I DO respect everyone’s right to guide their own children as they please, I am having a hard time seeing this vibrant, beautiful, intelligent young girl tied down this way at barely nineteen… :(</p>
<p>I was joking with my son today over lunch that EVERYTHING that this mother bans, I allow, and the ONLY thing she allows, I have ADAMANTLY put my foot down against! </p>
<p>Berurah, I have known a few Mormon families like that as well… it seems odd because some of them really nurture their kids’ intellectual abilities when they’re young, and then expect them to drop out of college. Seems contradictory to me, but as you say, everyone has the right to advise their children as they see fit, and their subculture is a lot different from the mainstream.</p>
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<em>ROFLMAO</em> Maybe the abstinence programs should include the suggestion of marriage? 
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