<p>Ah, Zooser, with one son that’s clear. I have many sons. I’ll need a system as to who walks me down the aisle for each. The groom each time, maybe. Is that wedding protocol, by the way? I don’t even know. In 100 weddings, I don’t remember the groom walking Mom down the aisle, but it could just be memory. At the last wedding I attended, which was an elaborate affair, the MOB was escorted by her BIL who was not a groomsman, but performed usher duties as did other ushers, none of whom were groomsmen. her sons were all groomsmen. MOG was escorted by her husband.</p>
<p>Who’s walking your DH down the aisle at your DS’s wedding? One of the DDs?</p>
Totally up to him. As long as I have my son. OF course, someone is going to have to be designated to handle me when I stand up and start screaming NO NO NO. That should probably be my husband’s task for the day.</p>
<p>My future sister-in-law just got married in September, and her procession was very informal but worked out well. There wasn’t a rehearsal, and I was actually in the procession and didn’t know it until right before the wedding, the minister just told us what to do. I don’t remember who walked the MOG in, I think she was seated already by the time we came in-- I am sure it was either her son or her husband. The maid of honor and best man came down together. Then the youngest brother and his girlfriend walked in together, then my fiance and I, then the final (single) brother walked in with mom and dad on either side. There were no bridesmaids or groomsmen. I think this is probably along the lines of what we’ll do. Everybody was happy.</p>
<p>ETA: I wouldn’t judge if a MOG wanted her son to walk her down the aisle, and I am sure I am probably going to end up doing whatever FMIL wants without much thought about it, but I think if I saw a MOG escorted by her son I would assume her husband was estranged or deceased. But I suppose if the father gets the bride on her wedding day, it’s only fair! :)</p>
<p>When my son got married, his father and I walked with him down the aisle. He kissed us good by at our seat and then he walked up to where he was to stand for the ceremony. </p>
<p>Then her family was escorted down the aisle. Her mom (escorted by my younger son) and then the bridesmaids. Then the bride with her father. </p>
<p>I forget how we handled the grandparents. They must have been escorted first by various family members. There were married almost 2 years ago and already the memories of these details are getting fuzzy.</p>
It’s so funny that I never wanted a boy. When he was born I asked the doctor “what am I supposed to do with this?” I pray for the woman who eventually marries her. She will need all the grace God can give him to deal with me.</p>
<p>Maybe you will really like her zoosermom because she agrees with you about your son. My H was the beloved older son of a very son-centric family, right up to the grandmothers, etc… But, since I thought he was the most wonderful man in the world, these women took me in as one of their own. ;)</p>
<p>That is an excellent point, poetgrl. Maybe if there is some woman out there who knows that my son is perfection personified, we can both swoon over him. I mean, my husband who should, doesn’t. I said to him the other day “Isn’t the PBK adorable?” and he said “no 14-year old boy is adorable.” I was very offended.</p>
<p>I made it my policy never, ever, ever to criticize my husband to his mother – not that she would have cared, but it just seemed ungracious to speak ill of someone to his mother.</p>
<p>My neighbor says she didn’t cry at her son’s wedding. She was overjoyed that someone was willing to marry the boy. (She does love her son.)</p>
<p>In daughter’s recent wedding, the groom walked his mother (divorced) to her seat and then he joined the groomsmen at the front. Mother and father (ex-husband) get along well. He followed mother and groom down the aisle and sat next to mom in the front row. They choose not to walk down together because they are divorced. Groom is an only child so no brother to step in. Perfect scenario, as mother and groom are close and, in effect, she “gave him away” with that walk down the aisle.</p>
<p>I really hope my D (eventually as she is not near engagement) will want both H and me to walk her down the aisle. We are not Jewish, but I love this tradition. It shows that both parents are supporting/leading her into the next phase of her life. Of course, whatever D and her future spouse want will be. If not, I think I would like my only son to escort me. </p>
<p>Back to OP: just don’t start the processional until everyone is seated. Put the niece in the middle of a pew!</p>
<p>I like you a lot, zoosermom, but really - isn’t that all under your control? You seem to have determined that your son is the prince of the household and the only way some girl will have him is to wrest him out from underneath you, with you carrying on dramatically. Is that really healthy? Or cute? If your posts are just in jest, I apologize, but if they are serious, I don’t see what’s so cute about it.</p>
<p>Zooser - my MIL is the non-jesting version of you! it is terrible and very creepy. Esp. because she does not even seem to like her D (who is wonderful!). She deserves a thread of her own! </p>
<p>I bet you and your future DIL will get along great. She will be your kindred spirit in loving your S.</p>
I really hope so. In all seriousness, I will be the antithesis of my own MIL, won’t make demands, will smile and nod a lot, will cook well and often and will otherwise know my place. I do worry about the ‘son is a son till he takes a wife thing,’ though, but I truly believe that it is ultimately the son’s place to determine the relationship with his family and, barring extreme circumstances, if there is no relationship, it is the son’s not the DIL’s fault.</p>
<p>I am a little wookie about my son, not because he is a boy, but because he is my last baby and I want to hold on a little longer. Also, he had a very serious head injury at age 4 that has become part of my personality. I spoil him, but not really more than I did with the girls, I’m just a nervous Mom with him and I know it, so I make fun of myself about it.</p>
<p>Hee! I’m expecting my fifth boy. I asked God, “Are you serious?!”. I love my boys but I understand my girls. Egads, I’m so tired of Legos and Star Wars.</p>
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<p>((Hugs)) I understand this. My eldest child spent his 13th summer in the hospital with a ruptured appendix. He received Last Rites but thankfully made a complete recovery. He’s 18 now and it’s just a blip on his radar. I measure my life in terms of Before Appendicitis and After Appendicitis.</p>
<p>Zoosermom-- my fmil is a lot like you. I understand. She was heartbroken when my fiance moved 2.5 hours away for his job, and I was very aware when we got together and were talking about buying a house that she might worry this meant that I was taking him away from her for good. I’ve made it a point to emphasize that just because we live closer to my parents doesn’t mean we don’t want her to be a big part of our lives too and that we hope she’ll come and stay with the grandkids someday. I think I’m her favorite now. I remind her S to call on her birthday and things like that, too, and we’re having her over for mother’s day. We go visit about once a month now, something he never did before I was in the picture. If your S finds a nice thoughtful girl you may be even better off with them together than having him all to yourself!</p>
<p>Wow. Villagemom–that would have a permanent effect on me! (how many kids do you have? Does the Village refer to your home? :))</p>
<p>My D has decided on the parent couples walking down in pairs, then the bridal couple together. </p>
<p>My father was deceased, and I was preceded by my sister as only attendant and escorted by my brother (just down the stairs into my mom’s living room.) It was sort of nice that the three siblings were the wedding party, though if I did it over, I’d have chosen to have my mom escort me. Just wasn’t thinking it out at the time.</p>
She was heartbroken when my fiance moved 2.5 hours away for his job, and I was very aware when we got together and were talking about buying a house that she might worry this meant that I was taking him away from her for good. I’ve made it a point to emphasize that just because we live closer to my parents doesn’t mean we don’t want her to be a big part of our lives too and that we hope she’ll come and stay with the grandkids someday. I think I’m her favorite now.