My kid didn’t ask to be born. Not sure he owes me anything. In any case, he did call on MD but, more surprisingly, he called MY mother! She called me yesterday to say that she had the sweetest conversation with DS on MD and was so touched by his thoughtfulness.
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You raised him, and well. Thanks isn’t “owed” its appreciated. The other “moms” (the in-laws) live with or near the s’s and their families We are far away….
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It’s clear that we all have different standards and “celebrating” priorities. And that’s ok. Gifts or no gifts, flowers or no flowers, FaceTime or no FaceTime - no one method wins a prize as right or best.
Some families really lean into gifts/things. Some people or families don’t.
For ME (not into getting gifts) getting a thing for me spontaneously - not for a birthday or Mother’s Day or any event - means a whole lot more because they were just moved to think of me. A couple of weeks ago my son stopped by with a plastic bag (like you get a the grocery store) all twisted up with something in the bottom. “Mom, I have a surprise for you!” It was 2 bags of coffee beans from a coffee shop/roaster in a nearby town that I love to stop in but don’t get there often. He and his wife stopped in and on a whim, knowing that I love the place picked two flavors and bought them for me.
I mean I’m THRILLED to have the coffee - but even more thrilled that they did it “just because”.
Maybe that’s what some of the mood is here on this thread. Mother’s Day isn’t a “just because”. It’s prescribed. And prescribed isn’t near as fun! (For me. 
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My MIL used to send a MD card to me each year… thanking me for the beloved grandkids. Thought it was sweet.
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