<p>Got her a 12" non-stick calphalon pan! Hey, it’s exactly what she asked for. ($135!!! shocking)</p>
<p>Ummmmmmmmmmmm, ya may want to add something a bit more romantic or sentimental to that! ;)</p>
<p>Umm, if my husband gave me a Mother’s Day present, I’d be upset with him. I’m not his mother. OTOH, I expect him to remind the kids to call me.</p>
<p>How about cooking something for her in it, and (more importantly) washing it (and cleaning up the entire kitchen) afterwards?</p>
<p>Mine admitted tonight that he forgot to remind the boys that Mother’s Day is coming up. I guess I can’t even count on the reminder, AND I think he only remembered because a sappy commercial came on during ER.</p>
<p>On the other hand I don’t like to get roses or any cut flowers - buy me a live plant I can plant in the yard!</p>
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<p>Wow…you’re a bit sensitive! :eek: I get spoiled rotten by both my VERY thoughtful husband <em>AND</em> super-incredible kids. I cannot understand your objection. For example, <em>I</em> can give my child’s teacher a gift to honor his/her contributions to my child’s life even though <em>I</em> am not the student. And likewise, my husband can show his appreciation to me as his children’s mother, even though he is not my child (though he may act like it occasionally! ;)) In fact, my husband has emailed me countless times this week (AND talked to me in person rather extensively) about what I would like to have for Mother’s Day…it means a great deal to him that he gets me something I will really appreciate. IMHO, the vast majority of what moms (AND dads) do is vastly underappreciated. The more people that want to show appreciation, the better. :)</p>
<p>NJres~ I actually think that what you got your wife is <em>perfect</em> if that is what will make her happy! I was kind of just joking about adding something to it. I personally LOVE electronic/computer/photography gadgets, and often opt for those over jewelry, though I LOVE that too–it’s just that with a large family, we have to make concessions. My dh loves to buy me jewelry, though, and if it’s been awhile, he’ll go ahead and do it over my objections–so hurt me! ;)</p>
<p>At any rate, Happy Mother’s Day to your wife, and happy cooking!</p>
<p>~berurah</p>
<p>Berurah, my husband is wonderful, and very generous with his time and his thoughts (as well as occasional gifts), but I’ve never been big on what I consider “Hallmark holidays”–holidays that are created in order to sell stuff. Mother’s Day and Valentine’s Day fall in that category for me. My kids are expected to make me something or write something personal for Mother’s Day, and that’s great.</p>
<p>perfume!!! I want perfume and I don’t care who gives it to me…PERFUME </p>
<p>My D will borrow it anyway</p>
<p>Did I say PERFUME!!!</p>
<p>Getting out of Dodge. ME, the Daddy.</p>
<p>TheMom would be offended if I bought her a Mother’s Day present. Otoh, she enjoys going out to dinner as a threesome. Last year was the first year that Mother’s Day came without D being here, but then we were actually in St. Louis with TheMom’s mother, on the way to see the D.</p>
<p>Of course, some think it’s kinda kinky that we go out to Valentine’s Day as a threesome. Too many times when D was young that it was easier to drag her with us everywhere than to find a sitter, etc.</p>
<p>DMD, your point is somewhat taken, but just as any day can be a day to take stock and re-calibrate, so New Years is a “natural.”</p>
<p>That sounds like a great gift - - very practical. </p>
<p>On my first mother’s day as a single mother a neighbor gave me a basket of muffins with a flower from her yard and a card - Even though I was not her mother the recognition and reassurance she gave me was very appreciated and extremely thoughtful.</p>
<p>I am a dedicated hobby gardener, and this is a crunch time of year for me on our acre. I am so busy with the vegetable and flower beds in the side yard that the back border has to wait. So in years past my husband has taken the kids to the local nursery, where they have chosen flats of annuals for my Mother’s Day gift. The part I really appreciated is that the kids would weed the site and plant the flowers themselves. 
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<p>That evening we cook out and eat on the patio overlooking the plantings.</p>
<p>My H and I work many weekends; I’ve got the work duty on this Mother’s Day one so won’t even be around, but his mantra to me always is, “You’re not my mother.” To which I respond, “And you are so lucky I’m not, or you would be incredibly spoiled!..now go clean up your room!”</p>
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<p>Where I am at a loss to understand this is, I think, in the usage of terms such as “upset” or “offended.” I guess I am the type of person who ALWAYS examines motive/purpose/intention in ANY act. The way I figure it, if the intention of the person was good/positive/kind/generous, I <strong>NEVER</strong> take “offense.” I try to see the situation from the point of view of someone besides <em>ME</em>. I feel I owe my loved ones (and others) at least that.</p>
<p>I guess it just seems kind of “entitled” or “spoiled” to judge the generous actions of others in such a selfish way…it is just not something I would EVER think to do.</p>
<p>Yes, I can sort of understand someone’s objection to supporting “Hallmark holidays” (though, again, I don’t get “offended” by them…in fact, anyone can give anything they like on Mother’s Day—including things that do not require the expenditure of money), I simply cannot understand a vehement enough feeling to support such feelings as being “upset” or “offended”. </p>
<p>Better to be hard to offend, better to give the benefit of the doubt (where there IS doubt, anyway)…it just makes you a kinder, gentler person. I cannot fathom that ANY hubster would bestow a Mother’s Day gift on his wife with intentions of insulting or offending. Remember, there is grace involved in both the giving AND receiving of a genuinely offered gift. 
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<p>~berurah</p>
<p>You are so wise, berurah. I always enjoy reading your posts. I tell my kids that it is important to be able to “receive graciously.” Sometimes this is harder than giving…</p>
<p>My mom has been eying this grill lately, and I was thinking of getting it for her for mothers day, because quite frankly she never buys herself anything and every time we’re at the store she stops in awe of it. It was like a $300 grill. So to my suprise, she went and got it for herself last weekend and now I don’t know what to get her! What a punk…</p>
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<p>I am taking my 7 year old cousin to the store today to pick out something for her mom… hopefully I will come across something then… For Easter I got my mom a Cactus. She seemed to really like that, because nobody has gotten her a Cactus before… and it’s relatively low maintence ;)</p>
<p>Awwwwwwwwwww, fendergirl, you sound like such a lovely and fabulous daughter…AND cousin, for helping out the little one! If you were MY daughter, I would be thrilled with ANYTHING you got me because your heart is most decidedly in the right place! ~berurah</p>
<p>my cousins parents are currently getting divorced, so if i don’t take her to do the shopping (and pay for it) i don’t know who will. her dad certainly won’t, and i have more spendable money than my parents so it just makes more sense for me to do it. i took her the other week to get her mom something for her birthday… she picked out a dvd and a nice bouquet of flowers. her mom was really suprised that she thought to get her flowers.</p>
<p>I’ll take anything I’m given! I love presents and holidays, and it doesn’t have to be anything special, as far as the gifts go. If S1 remembers to call, that will be enough of a miracle. And I DO expect my husband to do something special for me, since I’m the mother of his children. It’s called “Mother’s Day” not “Only Acknowledge Your Own Mother Day” and since I’m a mother, I’d like someone to make my morning tea.</p>
<p>I believe in celbrating anything and everything, even if just in a small way. The more parties the better.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t use words like “offended” or “upset”, I guess, but definitely “puzzled” comes to mind. We too are not into the Hallmark holidays–I remember my wonderful, much beloved MIL say that Mother’s Day was invented to make kids feel guilty. If mine do do something, that’s fine, but they’re wonderful kids all year round; they don’t need to worry about a designated day. And if my H did something for it, that’d just be strange.</p>