<p>This is an interesting thread. Those of you who are close to inlaws are so fortunate. I have been married twice but have only felt close to one cousin and his wife. My MIL in my first marriage just tolerated me. She was polite but not too engaged with me as a person. She adored her only son and it was subtly apparent that I was just a sort of neccessary evil. He left me after 14 years of marriage and she just dropped me too. My FIL was a very kind, interesting man and I often think of him. I saw him only once after my divorce when my D was able to meet her grandfather. He passed away not long after that.</p>
<p>My second H’s mother died before I met him, but he says she would have approved of me and liked me. It must be so wonderful to have another mom figure in your life (when it is positive).</p>