<p>stop whining and just apply…if he’s paying, who cares…if you get rejected, you win…if you get accepted, you can always turn it down…</p>
<p>If you are looking for merit aid at U of R, schedule an interview. And do it soon, they only go through January.</p>
<p>College is about getting an education and college cant always be about your number one choice. Be grateful you have someone to pay for college and that you get to go to college.</p>
<p>He doesnt need merit aid rlm, trust me ;)</p>
<p>“College is about getting an education and college cant always be about your number one choice. Be grateful you have someone to pay for college and that you get to go to college.”</p>
<p>Gotta love the “suck it up and quit whining you little brat, how dare you ever dislike ANYTHING even a little bit” posts, they’re just SO helpful, huh Heavenwood? :-D</p>
<p>This is one of the first steps on your path to adulthood, so it’s a great learning experience. For the rest of your life, there will be people who want you to do things on their terms. You need to learn how to set limits on their behavior, and how to diminish your own frustration at never being able to please them. (You thought the Penn ED would shut him up, didn’t you? Ha!)</p>
<p>First of all, I want to compliment you on having an excellent list. You have clearly done your part in choosing colleges that are are solid matches for you. If anything, you might consider one more reach, which your dad is only too happy to provide. What do you think of letting him choose one more school for you to apply to, with the agreement that he cannot pressure you about any other schools? Once you have this agreement, you can refer to it when he puts on the pressure; it’s important to have something like this that you’ve negotiated, at some sacrifice to you both. Keep referring to it until you sound like a broken record, and try to keep your emotions out of it. This is tough on your dad, too. You can acknowledge that without feeling like you have to give in to him. Good luck!</p>
<p>How about you give him a list of about 4 or 5 of the ones you get accepted to and want to go to, and he gets to pick the final choice from that group?</p>
<p>Or he picks a group of 4 or 5 from the ones you get accepted to, and you get to pick the final choice? These ways, you both get a choice and you should be able to avoid the ones you don’t want to attend.</p>
<p>Yes HW probably does not need merit aid but dad is talking about merit aid at Drexel. If he gets merit aid at Drexel and also gets in at U of R but without merit aid based on dad’s responses so far I bet dad would be pushing Heavenwood to go to Drexel. Where he does not want to go. At least U of R is on Heavenwoods list. Do all you can to get your choices in the running.</p>
<p>Heavenwood-- You clearly have taken charge of making excellent decisions and you are obviously a very competent individual, I just wish that your fahter could appreciate that. He’s lucky. Do you have anyone that can help diffuse your feelings–I just worry that in such a tension loaded time he is adding to your stress and I don’t think it’s fair. Any decent guidance people at school, community adult or relative to confide in and strategize with?</p>
<p>Our guidance department is a joke, so no.
Also rlm, I highly doubt even with merit his dad would make him go to Drexel. Trust me, the Main Line is prestigeville, USA.</p>
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<p>Brat sums this entire subject up quite nicely</p>
<p>Shut up you ignorant *****. You dont even know him. He’s as far from a brat as one could be.</p>
<p>Lets look over the topic here. </p>
<p>His dad liked his college list and told him to fill out some more application forms, that must be horribl for his health and mental well being huh. And therefore he has overstepped his boundaries and it is TOTALLY AND UTTERLY preponderous because his father will be paying for his college and he cant put his own opinions in. He has created this thread as an outlet to whine because there is a possibility he may not get what he wants because life obviously is all about his wants. College obviously will present a great life experience, but going to the colleges that his father added is not going to create a fiery wall blocking him from a future that his hand picked colleges would allow. Certainly , it would be great if he could pick and eventually go to his number one choice, but if he cant, get on with life, stop whining or pay for it yourself</p>
<p>lol at the “My dad made me apply. Please reject me.” I want to take that and change it to “My mom made me apply. Please reject me.” and send it in to the UC System. Seriously my mom DID make me apply.</p>
<p>And that folks, is the worst post in the history of the interwebz. Congrats!</p>
<p>EDIT: To southpasdena</p>
<p>agreed…my dad made me apply to two places, and now i DO see why he wanted me to apply, and i wish i was there! also, my dad tried to get me to apply to higher schools, i didnt, and now i wish i had because i had a great shot at gettin in…</p>
<p>and do you know what im doing over break? transfer applications</p>
<p>if he’s paying for the apps, LET HIM HAVE INPUT crap he’s your father, don’t you have any respect for him? and his money? or are you just going to run your life completly and want money when you see your tuition bill?</p>
<p>OP: at least your dad’s LISTENING, but not hearing. My mom’s not even LISTENING. At all.</p>
<p>jpod, if school was the privilege that the op makes it seem, it would be free. There are obviously a few things you fail to understand.</p>
<p>I understand plenty. You dont know his dad.</p>
<p>It really doesn’t matter if i know his dad or not, he can at the least be grateful. He is being a whiny little brat. Would he rather go to the colleges on his dads list or work full time to support himself through school. Or perhaps work 2 jobs as many do. Live years in debt? Struggle to make tuition payments before the deadline. Not go to school at all? Stop being a whiny little brat and be grateful</p>