<p>My girlfriend is in her senior year of high school and she is being bothered by a black girl who is also a senior. The black girl would sometimes say offensive remarks at her and she gets offended easily. According to my girlfriend, she would harass my gf on the bus and in school. She told me that this bully has be bothering her for many years. Recently, she told me the bully told her that “her hand smells like s***.” My gf respects the black girl but the black girl doesn’t give her respect. Usually, my gf just ignores the bully. But I thought that she needs to tell her parents if she hasn’t already and do something about it. What should she do?</p>
<p>a) It really, really doesn’t matter the other girls race does it? Doesn’t just calling her ‘the bully’ kinda suffice? Particularly in the title. Did you think no one would look if it was just an ambiguous race bully?</p>
<p>b) Your girlfriend needs to man up. Ignoring is the best policy, and she’s clearly not doing a good job if she can’t laugh of comments with you that ‘her hands smell like ----’. Couldn’t she turn around like…how would you know? Does the bully pick up her hands and smell them?</p>
<p>“Pack heat.” It’s the one thing most of them respect. </p>
<p>Assuming you live somewhere like Michigan (heavy gun control), or you really just want to ignore my jackass suggestion, I assume they won’t be going to the same college. She should continue ignoring her, not worrying about it, and soon she won’t be around.</p>
<p>first of all, don’t call her “the black girl”. and there was no need to put “black girl” in parentheses in your title. </p>
<p>to deal with it, you ignore it or say something back (aka laughing it off with a witty comment) it happens all the time in this world. “your hands smell like s***” is not a good enough reason to go running to her parents. in my opinion, she should stand up for herself if she’s this bothered by it.</p>
<p>lol, good stuff qwerty
packing a benelli or sawed-off would solve it.</p>
<p>Although our society would give you the “she has problems at home and that’s why she’s a bully” talk, I would agree with letstalkcollege in suggesting that she should just ignore it and woman up. Bullies are bullies, but it seems that her bullying focuses on mild and uneffective verbal disses, which she can easily just tune out.</p>
<p>my apologies everyone. I was only trying to distinguish my girlfriend from the bully. Because of how I explain it, you might be confused that my gf is black or something like that, not the other way around or something like that. Very sorry if that offends other CCers.</p>
<p>I don’t think it’s bad enough to get other people involved, but she might want to talk to the other girl about it. Maybe she could ask her why she said that. To be honest though, I found that comment to be a little random. I don’t think it’s something to get too upset about, but if the comments continue to progress, then I’d take action.</p>
<p>Well, my gf told me that one of her friends told her that the bully simply wants attention. I think that’s why she has been bothering my gf.</p>
<p>lol I was 100% certain that someone would accuse you of racism within three posts.</p>
<p>Anyway the bully doesn’t sound that intelligent. “Your hand smells like ****”? Seriously? That’s a terrible insult. Is the bully doing poorly in classes? If so tell your girlfriend to ignore it. Chances are she’ll (the bully) be leeching off of welfare in 10 years anyway if she’s an idiot.</p>
<p>I’d avoid getting into a fight though… bullies like to flock as small gangs sometimes because they are too pathetic to fight a person one-on-one.</p>
<p>the black bully, the black girl bully, the bully (black girl), black bully girl…</p>
<p>LOL, w t f.</p>
<p>Give her a bucket of chicken, that will placate her.</p>
<p>(No one is accusing the OP of racism, just stupidity and inconsideration)</p>
<p>If your girlfriend doesn’t have many friends or insecurity issues (and if there’s any evidence that this will escalate) contact an appropriate adult. Otherwise, a HS senior is (usually) not defenseless, and ignoring it should solve the problem. If it turns into obvious / straight-up harassment, help your girlfriend out - you don’t want it to turn into anything serious.</p>
<p>Finally: a good way to distinguish the bully from your girlfriend is to refer to the bully as that - the bully. </p>
<p>“According to my girlfriend, she would harass my gf on the bus and in school.” - you write like a racist middle schooler.</p>
<p>This thread is 10x more racist than any Asian thread on this board.</p>
<p>haha this amuses me. is she the stereotypical fat black girl? tell your girlfriend to mention something along the lines of “my future will not consist of fast food chains”. shut her up for good.</p>
<p>Seniors take the bus to school?</p>
<p>“Give her a bucket of chicken, that will placate her.”</p>
<p>ahah, love ittt : P</p>
<p>Got to love New Jersey coming in here and picking on people who take the bus to school. Believe it or not but there are teenagers in this country who don’t own a car.</p>
<p>Hell, there are millions of adults who don’t own a car.</p>
<p>I go to a Catholic school, if you don’t have a car by junior year you basically fail at life. And barely anyone uses public transportation to get ANYWHERE.</p>
<p>You’re a joke. “Black Girl” … stupid post.</p>
<p>Nah, I used NJ Transit up to my junior year. I also go to a Catholic school, but we’re not allowed to park in the student lot until senior year (that is, we’re not allowed to purchase a parking pass until senior year). But now I sort of have a car.</p>
<p>Got to love Maryland for picking on New Jersey every chance possible. They must be jealous :rolleyes:.</p>